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Cake day: October 25th, 2023

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  • Hi, if you’d like to ask questions I’m here.
    You seem curious in other comments so I’d like to hear your thoughts.

    Kinda hard to give you the full picture since I’ve never had a pimp, but I think the cognitive dissonance only really comes up when I’m talking to someone who wants to enter the industry and isn’t understanding the ramifications. Otherwise it’s kinda a “supporting each other’s prison successes” vibe since we feel trapped in the world.






  • I feel like I get this to a degree that makes me uncomfortable. When I tried dating apps, I found that the interactions were so hollow that I never felt like I could be in a relationship with that person.

    This is not necessarily advice because I know how hard it can be when it comes to selecting your partner but both of my partners are trans autistic women and that has made a world of a difference.

    Sometimes the better option is accepting that some neurotypical people have to work twice as hard to accommodate for some of us, and that’s something that is going to make the relationship feel lopsided imo

    Maybe I just am too self conscious tho


  • Babe (I hope that’s okay to use)

    I think that’s one of the autism things

    I do that, and I gotta say it’s not worth the lack of enrichment to keep friends who aren’t at some level here to be excited with me about my special interests.

    It might make sense to mask it in certain situations like with some coworkers, but you’d be doing a disservice to yourself to not surround yourself with supportive friends.

    If it makes you feel better, I’m still working through my shame when it comes to this. I tend to apologize immediately after what I call a “rant” and my loved ones always reassure me that they’re here for it lol


  • I…am not sure I’d even say “to an extent” for enbies. While the trans men I’ve interacted with have been lackluster in wielding the privilege they gain for good, the afab enbies celebrate each piece of privilege because they are few and far between, if they are extant in the first place. I am ignorant if the statistics are granular enough to tell us this info, but after Nex, I feel it is fair to say many enbies experience harassment on the same scale and pervasiveness as trans women.

    Hell, some of the trans women I know are enbiephobic, so I feel like in some what it’s our job to support enbies, because it’s starting to look like “first they came for the enbies, and I said nothing, because I am not an enbie”.

    I genuinely prefer enbies as queer allies out of everyone else, but I feel like that’s an attitude you’ll get generally only from younger trans women. I guess I’m just saying while if someone like me is hurt I am deeply saddened for the loss of someone I extend my love to, but when an enbie is hurt it means (at least to me) someone who I could talk to with zero mask. I really hope I’m not saying anything shitty, to either group, cuz I have identified with being nonbinary in several ways over the years so maybe that would explain my feelings of companionship

    Also thank you for the support in keeping myself safe 💜





  • I saw a jumping spider while I was brushing my teeth, and I jumped back and she kinda cautiously prepared to run, so I said "Oh no I’m sorry lil spider I didn’t mean to scare you! You keep doing your thing, buddy! And she relaxed and then moved under the sink so I wouldn’t accidentally squish her while I brushed

    I thought nothing of it until I saw her on my way the next day, and I said “Hi!” And waved, and she waved back lol

    She waved back every time I saw her so I am pretty sure I made a friend/familiar