• diffusive@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I guess each person is different. I have zero sexual interest for women under (at very least) 25 (i am slightly older than him at the time they meet)

    Even if they look older than they are, i still have no interest because there is too much different life experience and expectations. I just don’t click (as a friend let alone as lover or partner).

    Why 18 and not 17 or 25? Well society decided this is a (imo conservative, could have been higher) threshold for old people to have sex with young people.

    Also 17 year old people can totally have sex with people of similar age (and we all have done 🙂) so it is not really about sexual self determination but rather avoiding predatory/manipolative behaviors of (much) older partners/lovers

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      6 months ago

      Well society decided this

      Some societies did. Retardistan is notn “The Society”. Retardistan also decided that you can volunteer to go to war and get killed for your country and that at the same time you are not old enough to have a beer. Maybe Retardistan is not the measure of all things.

      In Germany, while it never is ok for a person in a position of power to abuse this power, regardless of age or sexes, the age of consent is generally 14, 16 at the latest. Not everybody is happy with that of course, but maybe one should be a little more open to see more colors than black and white.

      Regarding Seinfeld: Was he actually in a position of power over this girl? How so?

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        6 months ago

        You are really not talking about this any more.

        What Germany has to do with this? What war has to do with this?

        If you weren’t a trustworthy internet stranger i would make conjectures that this is a topic that hits you personally and you live in Germany. And you are talking about yourself here.

        But good you are a trustworthy internet stranger that totally would not look in all possible provisions and exceptions for justifying their actions

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          6 months ago

          I personally am not interested in women that are more than 5 or 6 years my senior or junior. But I don’t judge. Why did I bring up the army, you ask? Only as an example of 'muricans deciding what’s age-appropriate. Joining the army and going to war? 17 year olds will do. Having a beer and shagging the neighbour? NO! That’s immoral if you are not at least 21 and/or about the same age as the neighbour! Driving a SUV that has hundreds of horse powers and weighs multiple tons? 16! It just doesn’t make any sense. So maybe turn at least down the judgyness a nudge. So Seinfeld had a fling with a consenting adult. So what? Judge him for being the most overrated and unfunny comedian ever, not for this. But as a German, who am I to judge humor. I am sure some people even appreciate his “humor”.

          'Muricans and their opinions about age are really, really strange and shouöd not be a point of reference for anybody.