• BrooklynMan@lemmy.ml
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    facing the consequences of your actions is not a state of victimhood.

    “DARVO is an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers. The abuser will: Deny the abuse ever took place, then Attack the victim for attempting to hold the abuser accountable; then they will lie and claim that they, the abuser, are the real victim in the situation, thus Reversing the Victim and Offender.”

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      If I keep replying will you keep quoting this at me while your friend/alt account upvotes you and downvotes me immediately?

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        If I keep replying will you keep quoting this at me while your friend/alt account upvotes you and downvotes me immediately?

        so, the only way someone could agree with me or disagree with you is through conspiracy? psychologists would call that paranoid delusion.

        facing the consequences of your actions is not a state of victimhood.

        “DARVO is an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers. The abuser will: Deny the abuse ever took place, then Attack the victim for attempting to hold the abuser accountable; then they will lie and claim that they, the abuser, are the real victim in the situation, thus Reversing the Victim and Offender.”

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          No, but we’re like 20 comments deep behind several “view more comments” links. I really doubt anyone is following our little pissing match so closely as to vote immediately after we post. I won’t deny it’s a remote possibility though, because I can recognize my own biases.

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            I really doubt anyone is following our little pissing match so closely as to vote immediately after we post.

            thanks for admitting that you came to engage in a pissing match rather than a good-faith conversation-- just as I said. so much for blaming me!

            also, if I were logging out and back in each time I commented, how could I possibly upvote and downvote these comments so quickly? makes no sense.

            facing the consequences of your actions is not a state of victimhood.

            “DARVO is an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers. The abuser will: Deny the abuse ever took place, then Attack the victim for attempting to hold the abuser accountable; then they will lie and claim that they, the abuser, are the real victim in the situation, thus Reversing the Victim and Offender.”

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              I didn’t say you were logging in and out to do it, and I also put forward the possibility that it was a friend of yours. You could just have multiple browsers open, or multiple profiles in the same browsers. And it didn’t really become a pissing match until the last few comments but I guess you always viewed it that way.

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                what a convoluted and convenient fantasy you’ve invented to avoid any accountability for your bad behavior. how fascinating.

                facing the consequences of your actions is not a state of victimhood.

                “DARVO is an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers. The abuser will: Deny the abuse ever took place, then Attack the victim for attempting to hold the abuser accountable; then they will lie and claim that they, the abuser, are the real victim in the situation, thus Reversing the Victim and Offender.”

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                  Is there something especially convoluted about using two web browsers?

                  Accountability? Is that what you call pasting the same paragraph at someone in the comment section of a sparsely populated link aggregator?

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                    Is there something especially convoluted about using two web browsers?

                    no, just the little conspiracy theory you invented.

                    Accountability? Is that what you call pasting the same paragraph at someone in the comment section of a sparsely populated link aggregator?

                    you really do love twisting what I said into

                    Straw man

                    A straw man fallacy (sometimes written as strawman) is the informal fallacy of refuting an argument different from the one actually under discussion, while not recognizing or acknowledging the distinction.[1] One who engages in this fallacy is said to be “attacking a straw man”

                    facing the consequences of your actions is not a state of victimhood.

                    “DARVO is an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers. The abuser will: Deny the abuse ever took place, then Attack the victim for attempting to hold the abuser accountable; then they will lie and claim that they, the abuser, are the real victim in the situation, thus Reversing the Victim and Offender.”