When you post so hard you make a common and routine part of speech fry someone’s entire limbic system.
no more half measures walter
Personally a big fan of the three-quarters measure myself.
my measures start at 1.5 and that’s why I’m like this
I play my post in attack mode and end my turn
remember back when people said bernie shouldn’t be president because he raised his voice when he spoke
I don’t remember that, would you like to explain?
election season produced some takes that are reminding me a lot of this situation, wherein something completely innocuous/outright good (being openly indignant about systemic oppression, displaying a user’s preferred pronouns) is smeared by liberals who are trying to associate said good things with bad people, thus drawing a connection that anyone who supports these good things is actually a bad person
they got it with bernie because he yelled, and abusive men also yell, therefore anyone supporting bernie is supporting abuse. the angle taken here is that hexbear users have pronoun tags, and hexbear users are bad, therefore you should be suspicious of anyone who has pronoun tags. they’re just dipping into casual transphobia as a very limp attempt at an own
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I hate that they made me feel that way …
And on that day, no personal responsibility was taken.
God damn, go touch some grass if you “tighten up” at the sight of pronouns.
A bit confused. Are we aggressive? Idk I try to not be aggressive
I also would like to learn this. Since you people federated I’ve seen more posts complaining about how aggressive users of this instance are than I did from users of the instance. Yall do seem to think about politics (edit: and hate liberals) a lot more than the average user but I’m yet to see the ‘vitriol’
Edit: this is a genuine question. What bad experience is everyone talking about when they say hexbear is toxic?
Just as a clarification, our hatred of liberals is not the same as that of right-wingers. We hate capitalist ideology, not “wokeness” or something nonsensical like that. We are the exact people conservatives are trying to shit on when they say that.
we’re very active and have an anti-lurker culture + no downvotes, so if we see a bad take, we reply instead of downvoting and moving on. this leads a lot of people to get very animated and angry about us.
Most people can’t just move on when they see something that distrubs them, and I think it would be unhealthy for most to change.
agreed! criticism and folding received criticism (even when it’s offered abrasively) back into your own behavior is essential. this was one of the motivators in disabling downvotes.
I expect it likely works quite well in a community where everyone knows and agrees to that. In my opinion, when the pond gets too big it becomes too hard to tell if what the abrasive-but-fair from the just-being-a-jerk comments
Like, I was distracted for hours and couldn’t sleep then couldn’t work because of a side-comment insult im a post because it went against someone I strongly believe in. Had to research everything that was being said in the post and carefully reply to move on. That is not the life I want for myself. Don’t know how much of that really apply here, since like someone else said, I haven’t actually seen ‘mean’ hexbear comments outside of hexbear, and never gotten one.
In my opinion, when the pond gets too big it becomes too hard to tell if what the abrasive-but-fair from the just-being-a-jerk comments
firm moderation goes a very long way. if someone is just being a jerk, it’s time to remove the comment. if they’re doing it repeatedly, they need to be banned. doesn’t solve everything but we’ve built a very solid community following this approach over the past 3 years. we’re very tight-knit as a result.
That is not the life I want for myself.
no worries, it’s not for everyone.
Someone find that tweet where someone complained about Bernie Sanders because he reminded her of when her father got angry
Thatcher’s “there’s no such thing as society. There are individual men and women and there are families” worked for killing unions so why not stretch it to justifying imperialism?
Look, I grew up in a seriously abusive household which caused me constant psychological distress and I can relate to hearing the key in the front door being the “Oh shit, here it comes… I wonder what shit is going to come down on me today” feeling.
What I cannot tolerate is the idea that this is in any way close to what the US and its shitbag allies inflicted upon Afghanistan.
Does this person seriously believe that the counterinsurgency work, the rampant human rights abuses, the kidnapping and literal torture, the fucking war for God’s sake, etc. inflicted by the NATO axis upon Afghanistan is in any way comparable to an abusive household?
Do they think that the issues of domestic violence didn’t occur in Afghanistan during the war and the occupation, like they were somehow put on pause, rather than the war and occupation compounding the trauma that abused children in Afghanistan faced and continue to face today as a consequence of the war?
Have they no idea how domestic violence rates increase as a direct result from war and occupation? Or do they just have no compassion for other victims of abuse?
Did their psychologically abusive father happen to use depleted uranium weapons on them, for fuck’s sake?
This is just gross and a classic case of a victim not only appropriating the trauma of other survivors but using that appropriation to silence the very victims whose trauma they are appropriating and they should be disgusted in themselves for doing this, if they had any capacity for humility or shame.
To steelman what you’re replying to, I can understand finding it difficult to care about another tragedy, even one as large and affecting as many people as that, when you have your own personal tragedy to deal with on a daily basis.
I had a similar childhood, but this is a ridiculous take. If you’re projecting your trauma onto strangers, you might want to switch your focus into therapy and not politics, that’s just not healthy
