I’m a Pastor’s son, grandson, and nephew. Also a Missionary’s nephew. None of my siblings or I are “out” as ex-christian to anyone other than each other. We’ve all just moved far enough away from family that we can live our lives without family expectations, although we’ll still attend services and participate outwardly when visiting family over the holidays. It’s probably not the healthiest thing, but it still allows us to have at least somewhat of a relationship with family, that would cease to exist entirely if we let family know we no longer believe. My youngest brother is also gay, which would unfortunately be an even bigger deal for my family to accept. I think once the grandparents are gone, we won’t bother keeping up the facade as much, but for now we’ve all independently concluded that after a lifetime of keeping up outward appearances, a few more years of faking for the sake of having a normal last few years with the grandparents is worth it.