• 🔍🦘🛎@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    If you were in that situation, would you say “no, I would be raping you”? The boyfriend excuse is a much more tactful way to get yourself out of the situation (as well as a good enough reason in its own right).

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      2 months ago

      No it’s not. “Hey, I really like you, but you’ve had too much to drink and this wouldn’t be right. If you feel this way tomorrow, let me know,” is a perfectly acceptable answer. Hell, I’ve given that answer before. It’s certainly not less tactful than, “You have a boyfriend and what you’re doing is wrong.” And yeah, cheating on your boyfriend is bad, but not as bad as rape, which this would have been.

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        2 months ago

        Keep in mind, you’re telling this to a blackout horny drunk person. In honesty, it doesn’t matter what you actually say.

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          2 months ago

          OK, so if it doesn’t matter what he said, why lie? You’re kinda invalidating your initial point here.

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            Well, okay, the drunk person will still react to what you say; they just won’t remember. Having a gracious exit to the situation is preferable to, say, “OH MY GOD THERE’S AN AXE MURDERER BEHIND YOU” and running away when they turn around.

            I began with ‘have some tact’ after all.