First off, I am still relatively new here, and I hope I don’t offend anyone with any of these questions, but some things I’ve been wondering lately. And that I’m probably going to have to work through before too long.

Same sex/gender parents, do your children call both of you the same or different names?(mom/dad etc.)

Trans* parents, if you had children before you came out, did what they call you change? I’ve only been aware of one instance of this situation and the kids still called her dad.

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    Oof! I’m even more sorry to hear about your ex 😓

    The genetic gender stuff is really fascinating to me right now. Partially because how little it’s talked about, and partially because how common it seems, which makes the first part even more interesting.

    I do agree with your kiddo sometimes. When I really get heated thinking about it, I do tend to get to the idea that “Gender is bullshit!” it’s just stuff and behavior separated into boxes with labels, it’s fucking stupid!

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      The genetic gender stuff is really fascinating to me right now. Partially because how little it’s talked about, and partially because how common it seems, which makes the first part even more interesting.

      I don’t know of any trans people in my biological family (granted, I’m not close to most of them; I only recently met some of my half-sibs a few years ago). My brother is a bit GNC but pretty cis. But I wonder about my mom (whom isn’t blood related). Kinda suspect she’d be in the agender-spectrum, but she also unfortunately listens to way too much “conservative” sources and can be bit transphobic at times and since she doesn’t care about things like pronouns, she’s also not good at using trans people’s correct pronouns.

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        I feel you there… My parents have recently decorated the outside of the house with like 3 new pro-trump flags and it’s disappointing as hell. Like at some point I may have to choose between being me and having them around, which sucks they’re the grandparents my kids are most comfortable with and the only reason we get breaks occasionally.

        Worse than my issues, I fear that one of them is possibly queer themselves, and if the grandparents make too big of a stink about it I’ll have to put my foot down sooner. I can deal with shit coming at me to an extent, but I will not let it come at them, if I can find a way for them to not go through extra shit.

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          The good thing is given my parents are queer, they’re not really supportive of republicans. And given my mom is GNC, she’s always been fine with us being GNC. But I think one of the main reasons I haven’t said anything about my gender is because I don’t want to deal with the “that’s normal” kind of response that a lot of people with trans-in-denial parents get at this point.

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            I think I’m going to end up with that attitude on multiple things, unfortunately. 😓

            Step 1 is probably coming out autistic, which I fully expect to be meet with the classic “you don’t seem autistic” said to the person conditioned tonot present that way.

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              Good luck with it! Hopefully you don’t get the “autistic people can’t be trans” response. I sorta fell into that thinking when I was younger, but more in a “I must be missing something” since I knew I didn’t get gender as a whole. Unfortunately too many people are willing to weaponize their ignorance instead of just admitting they don’t understand something.