• I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.place
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    5 hours ago

    I think people should get married only if they have a 100% intrinsic drive to do so. If you’re going online asking others, then you shouldn’t get married. It’s like you’re trying to find an excuse for or an approval to override something that is telling you not to get married.

    If before you met this woman, your future dream wife’s job was porn, then go for it. If not and rn you’re kinda just kind of like I-don’t-know, then don’t. Stop even thinking about it. It’s not an option.

    Honestly, it seems like you probably shouldn’t be wasting your time with this woman. If she has an Only Fans, then she’s using sex to take from men. You’re more likely than not, one of those men because that’s how she sees sex and men. Men are a source of income and sex is the service. It’s all transactional. Of course, she’s not going to come straight out and tell you that because it would ruin her game. Kinda like she probably doesn’t go on her videos and says, “I don’t find any of you attractive. This is all a show to get paid and validation,” because no one would want to watch. She’s going to be the same with you.

    I recommend that you look into emotional manipulation tactics used by abusers. When you do so, be honest with yourself. Mind your boundaries.

    • JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world
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      3 hours ago

      Honestly, it seems like you probably shouldn’t be wasting your time with this woman.

      Man you were giving great advice until you suddenly decided that people in the porn industry are incapable of love and only use sex as a weapon. Sex workers are human beings.

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        2 hours ago

        Yea, I think it went off the rails as soon as broad generalisations were used as to predict the motives of the sex worker. People go into sex work for many different reasons, and that is an important thing to know when piecing together the advice given.

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        3 hours ago

        While I don’t agree… People can have their opinions for what they find acceptable for their own partner. Looks like that’s what happened here.