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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Dezze82 on 2023-08-30 07:41:28.
In Dec 2022, without my knowledge, my mom opened up a credit line under my name and social security number. All so she could buy Xmas presents for the family.
Long story short, my mom informed me that she was buying gifts from this particular website, told me what gifts she was buying and that she was using my address for shipping….However, later on, an inquiry showed up on my credit report as a hard inquiry for a credit line and I got a letter saying I owe over $1100. I confronted my mom and of course she said she didn’t do that, that she only used my address for shipping, the people at the company are stupid etc. Mind you, my mom has a history of doing this as she opened up accounts under my sibling’s socials years ago, but we thought she changed. So, I know she’s lying. AND I called the company, and the items under my “so called account” were the exact items that my mom was trying to buy.
We got into a fight and I disowned her.
Fast forward to today, there was a death in my family. My siblings think I should forgive my mom or at least push aside my beef with her for the day, as they want me to pick up my mom and drive her to the funeral because I will have room in my car and they don’t. (My mom doesn’t drive because she doesn’t own a car)
I refused.
Ready for feedback and to possibly be judged!
They’ve been fine to let it fester till now, till they need you.
Fuck that noise, i’d refuse too.
There’s nothing about driving Mom from the airport to wherever that puts you in any danger, as long as you’re clear about your boundary.
But I’ve known silvertongued people and it’s not very easy to be clear about your interactions with them, because you can’t think very effectively in their presence.
I can understand not even wanting to share a car ride with her.
Well, now you know what your financial stability, respect and healthy boundaries is worth in their eyes.
A fucking car ride.
