Isn’t it more that we take the statements too literally? For example, I’ve had a couple different instances of women telling me, “I’d have sex with you,” or, “I’d go out with you.” In both cases, I thought, “That’s nice to hear that you would. I wish I could find someone who wanted to.” (Thankfully, that second one was persistent and eventually got through to me, and we’ve been married for years.) I’m literally clueless when it comes to flirting. I don’t understand when someone is “probably” flirting and doubt it, I just don’t get it in the first place.
I used to be opposite, where I would constantly mistake friendliness with potential romantic interest. After I got rejected and messed a budding friendship one too many times, I went the complete opposite route and decided not to expect romantic interest unless the woman was very very explicit about it.
Isn’t it more that we take the statements too literally? For example, I’ve had a couple different instances of women telling me, “I’d have sex with you,” or, “I’d go out with you.” In both cases, I thought, “That’s nice to hear that you would. I wish I could find someone who wanted to.” (Thankfully, that second one was persistent and eventually got through to me, and we’ve been married for years.) I’m literally clueless when it comes to flirting. I don’t understand when someone is “probably” flirting and doubt it, I just don’t get it in the first place.
I used to be opposite, where I would constantly mistake friendliness with potential romantic interest. After I got rejected and messed a budding friendship one too many times, I went the complete opposite route and decided not to expect romantic interest unless the woman was very very explicit about it.