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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Effective_Interest_7 on 2024-11-05 11:08:36+00:00.

This one is actually nice and fresh, I only found out a little while ago and I’m mostly writing this to make me feel a little better. Won’t be giving many details for anonymity.

My GF of around 3 years and I have a quite strong relationship, and I admit that shes done nothing but treat me well. No reasons to be suspicious of anything. We have our disagreements, as any couple does, and her usual method of approaching serious conversation often comes as long-winded text messages that take her, on average, numerous hours to write. Once, it took an entire day to hear back from her. This is an important piece of context for later. While this may not perfectly match with what I think of as the optimal method to solve problems, I was perfectly fine with her choosing that way, until now that is.

I was getting ready to type out a paper on my PC when I realize that theres numerous tabs open from when my girlfriend had last borrowed it to do the same. I was closing them until I stumbled across her Snapchat, which was open to the My AI feature, and it seemed that was the only thing she used the app for in ages. She was using a cheeky bit of AI assistance on her essay. which I didn’t judge her for. However, a couple thoughts came to me that made me inclined to start scrolling up to see what else she had asked the AI. Part of me wanted to genuinely figure out her weak points in writing so that I could help her on her next paper. Another part of me wanted to find something slightly embarrassing so that me and her could have a good laugh about it later, like a saucy message. All of me was pretty assured that, from my understanding, the AI message box wasn’t anything of a private or serious place to put sensitive information, especially considering that Snapchat would have likely automatically deleted any messages she wouldn’t want anybody else seeing. Whether this assumption or the scrolling up itself was the FU, I’m not sure, but around here is where I 100% FU and couldn’t go back.

Past the essay advice, I found a long message typed out and seemingly saved for later use. I recognized it as a message (or a very similar version of a message) that I was sent before as we mended our feelings after an argument. I thought that was generally a normal practice, as I had tons of info saved within the DMs of bots before, but what caught me off guard was that it wasn’t her who sent the message, it was the bot. At that point, my heart sank, and I kept scrolling so that I could confirm or deny if this was what it seemed. Unfortunately, my fears were confirmed when I found a history of mainly two things. One was her just generally venting and complaining about me and my actions, which is something I can’t fault her for. Personally, I think bots are too focused on giving a desired answer to have say in real-world conflict, but if it was cathartic for her, I see no problem in venting her anger. It was the other portion that made me want to hurl.

All I was seeing was clear evidence that multiple of the long-winded messages I thought she had painstakingly wrote for me were actually produced by an AI. The gimmicky Snapchat AI nonetheless. She was trying to workshop the message over and over, trying to get the AI to write in a way that evoked specific emotions in me, or better captured her stance. Seeing all of this was honestly crushing, especially considering that I myself do both personal and academic writing as an important part of my life, and not only was I made into a fool who fell for a robot’s words of love, but I also am just left so disappointed in both her and myself for giving genuine credence to messages she didn’t even come up with. I honestly think my only option is to try and pretend it didn’t happen. Now that I know it was a serious forum for her, I see that I totally shouldn’t have snooped. Played with fire, got burned. But I still feel like this will take time to see past, and that I’ll always be checking in the future, questioning her messages and just how long she actually spent writing them. Plus, theres bonus sadness in the fact I ended up reading a tirade that was correct about me being a shitty boyfriend. Safe to say that wasnt my best idea.

TL;DR:

I checked my GFs Snapchat AI messages and found out the important texts she has been sending me were actually written by a robot.