would you be wrong for “finding it rude” simply because your friend didn’t?
is it acceptable for them to justify themselves just going “lol boring” if they meant it for the topic and not you? like, should you magically no longer feel hurt anymore?
are you in the wrong for saying how just saying “lol boring” hurts you and requesting for them to say it more differently? that you’re just being defensive?
all while they claim how you’re “blaming them for everything”, want them to change themselves to please you, to force themselves to “enjoy what you’re talking about”, to not be able to dislike topics when 1. you didn’t say any of this, 2. you just wanted them to be more nice/compassionate and considerate of your feelings.
like, i’m sure we can all agree that there are better ways to say that what the person is talking about doesn’t really interest you all that much but they can keep going if they want. or hell, just not mentioning at all and just listening to them.
i feel like literally any of this would be better instead of just going “lol boring” and get all defensive about it and accuse you of being defensive all you did was expressing hurt and wanting them to say it differently.
glad i’m not the only one who feels this way.
funny you say this actually. i told her that this was rude of her to say and she immediately went on the defensive, how i’m not allowed to say she wasn’t being rude, especially as she didn’t “see it that way”. and that i should tell her that “hey, can you not say this? it makes me feel hurt” instead of “fighting about it”, even though i literally told her that (not the exact words used here but still implied) early on.