My (25F) boyfriend (28M) and I have been together for about 6 months, and things have been great overall. Recently, though, when he gets upset, he says things that seem intended to hurt me. It feels like he intentionally picks at things he thinks will get under my skin.

I’ve started to feel anxious about when the next comment will come, and it’s affecting me emotionally. I’m not sure how to address this with him.

  • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    That’s a big red flag. Sorry. But you should explain to him when he’s not angry why that is unacceptable behavior. Then you should stick to what you said. It’s unacceptable, which means you leave if he starts, and you don’t come back until he understands, apologizes, and promises not to do it again. Lifelong habits are hard to break, so he will do it again. But if it’s obvious that he doesn’t really care, or isn’t trying to be better, then you leave for good. Again, sorry.