• abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world
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    4 hours ago

    I’m not sure how i feel about the post altogether. I mean, i understand that toxic masculinity is bad, but this post needs some assumptions and context to make me want to side with it. For example, if I saw some guy just kinda minding his business doing silly guy stuff and the context was he wants to “feel like a man,” i don’t think i would be offended or concerned?

    r/justguysbeingdudes comes to mind

    • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works
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      1 hour ago

      I’ve heard this one before from my conservative grandma, It’s when a girl is doing something manly that the guy ““should”” be doing. Like if a girl is carrying in all the groceries while a guy is just watching someone would say “let [guy] do it, he’s supposed to feel like a man”

      This came up a lot as my sister is very much a ‘do it yourself’ kinda gal whereas her (now ex) boyfriend wasn’t much of an initiative taker.

      It’s not about a guy not doing manly things, it’s about stopping women from doing manly things.
      (also note I’m using ‘manly’ in the stereotypical terms, not how I personally see them)

    • kshade@lemmy.world
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      3 hours ago

      It probably is about feeling useful/needed. That’s what men are taught to measure their self-worth in.