• persolb@lemmy.ml
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      Yeah. I often type out a comment. The. Realize I really don’t want to be bother by this person’s adhoc reply… then just delete it.

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          Yep. Most of the time online you won’t convince the person you’re arguing against, BUT to convince people reading the thread. For the most part, arguing online is performative, for the purpose of the audience rather than the participants.

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          “You worship single-party states, not caring about worker enfranchisement - you’re not a communist - you’re a red fascist that gives communism a bad name.”

          “What kind of half-arsed unprincipled Nazi are you? You’re posting here rather than emulating your furher, who shot himself.”

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        I never had to block anyone on that other site. I like it here much better, but I might actually have to start blocking these tankie fucks.

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    I have a strange fear of being engaged by trolls. The thought alone is exhausting. I may or may not take the bait but the possibility of wasting my time on a useless argument means I’m hesitant to post. Not sure if anyone else has felt like this.

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      I violently disagree with your whole worldview and wish to engage you in rigorous debate over a topic neither of us has any ability to actually change in real life.

      Here is the rebuttal and deconstruction of everything that you believe:

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    • potoo22@programming.dev
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      It can be a part of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, and it’s more common in people with ADHD. You’re not alone in feeling this way.

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    Also, realizing that I actually don’t really have any idea what I’m talking about…

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      Conversely, if you actually are an expert on a specific subject, reading any comment thread about it is very disheartening and will leave you wondering how much bullshit you’ve accidentally ingested and taken at face value from other threads about which you are less knowledgeable.

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        This phenomenon was coined Gell-Mann Amnesia. Sometimes people will ingest content uncritically even when the source has been wrong in the past on subjects the people are knowledgeable about.

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      It’s a good habit. I wish most people had that mindset, usually they just hit send and launch their nonsensical tirade. It’s a good way to get your thoughts out of your head without actually putting them online. I use to do it all the time in r/news even though I was shadowbanned because I refused to link an email to my account. It is kind of cathartic.

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        Honestly I think Reddit helped me recognize my own ignorance about most things. Well, more specifically, other people on Reddit who found various ways of pointing out that I didn’t really know what I was talking about… I’m much less likely to post a comment than I used to be.

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          Reddit was great for that, I loved that aspect. I actually really enjoy when I have what I think is the most accurate opinion and then someone just comes around and is a niche Subject Matter Expert and slamdunks on me. It causes me to go down a rabbit hole and learn a lot of new stuff.

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        Yeah, I can see you’ve really cut down on babbling a bunch of bullshit every chance you get. 🙄

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    I also do this with emails at work all the time. I write a long detailed explanation of why something or someone is incorrect, then I realize clicking send will just cause me more hassle and I’m just working to get paid. It’s not really gonna make my job any harder if they continue to be wrong, so it’ll just sit there in drafts.

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    I get so caught up in making sure my meaning can’t possibly be misinterpreted that I get lost on my way to the point. I guess I don’t want to be a cherry-picked example of somebody being stupid on the Internet.

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      Write something with specificity to avoid attacks on a general statement and nobody reads it because it’s TL;DR.

      Write something general and brief and you get attacked for lack of specificity with people naming exceptions.

      Can’t fucking win.

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      Thing is you might need to reframe something for someone to understand it better. But then you’re not expressing your original interpretation of a concept but a slightly modified one. Yet we are expected to believe we are both somehow closer to comprehension…
      What are words even good for?!

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      If it makes you feel any better, just know that journalism is based on cherry picked stuff because that’s the only way they’re able to live nowadays

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        Well, that’s the only way we have ever lived. Specifically cherry picking stuff that could potentially kill us. Ipso facto; if it bleeds it leads

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    Spend 10 minutes articulating exactly how you conceptualize/feel about something.

    “Yeah. That’s about right, but nobody including myself really cares…”

    Close tab.

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    Mostly it’s like I keep editing and editing to get the right tone for a somewhat offensive style joke so I don’t have too many people not understanding it’s a joke before I think “fuck it, this is too much work for a stupid joke.”

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    Not necessarily anything to do with ADHD. Sometimes I just realise that writing whatever I’m writing would just trigger someone to start a fight. Then I stop.

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      Or I realize halfway through that I’m being a bit of a dick and decide the world doesn’t need more shittiness so I just delete the comment.

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      Or I find the right words, but they come all at once and in the wrong order, and there’s just so many of them, and it’s very important that I get them exactly right, and… yeah I’m just going to not bother.

      And then a few hours later I realize that it was a work email and I probably should get back to that.

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    Happens to me all the damn time.

    I just wish I wouldn’t waste an hour typing and rewording it before I eventually give up.

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    My usual thought process is: Can’t be arsed to do a full write up that covers all my thoughts on the topic, and even if I did no one wants to read it.

    If I write a summarised comment then people will just nitpick the bits I didn’t address, and I can’t be bothered to respond to replies.

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    Do you ever type out a multiple paragraph argument about something and then just delete it because it’s all bullshit anyway?

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      Yep. Like sometimes that fifth reread of the comment I’m replying to makes me realize the person is actually a troll and won’t care how thought out my response is.

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        I’ve done it on a post about blimps since posting that comment lol 😅

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        I just did it for this comment, and then after realising that I wrote this comment (the previous was going on a different tangent)