Is not about solving the issue, it is about feed from the anger and the attention.
Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.
My mon recently got mad at her sister’s friends for not helping with the arrangements of her 60th birthday party. I then asked wether she had asked for their help to which she said no. Well, that’s a you problem then.
My horseback riding instructor gives off the vibes that she doesn’t like me at all. She’s constantly mentioning how I don’t ride as often as the others and discourages me from doing things at the stables that I have permission from the owner to do. She hosted a party for all of her students and she just ignored me the whole time. Never offered me a drink like she did the others and excluded me from every picture aside from the group one at the end. Idk why she doesn’t like me. I mean, my theories are: I’m gay, I’m the only overweight student she has, I don’t spend all my money on lessons like the others, and I don’t have any issues with notoriously difficult horses because I know how to handle them.
I think the ordering of your reasons is reversed.
- I don’t spend all my money on lessons like the others,
- …
- …
- I’m the only overweight student she has,
- I’m gay
Money always beats other, more personal, reasons. There may be other things like, the time you turn up stops her going home, or whatever.
Being good with difficult horses doesn’t sound like a reason to have an issue.
I wasn’t listing them in any particular order lol. I’m heavily leaning towards the money part. We’ll see if she changes now that I have the funds to do lessons more often. The other students drop $160/week while I would drop $80/month.
Yeah, here’s the problem with that. They are communicating their feelings. I don’t understand the language they’re using.
Or the other version
“They’re choosing not to communicate their feelings, but also making very painful decisions for me based on feelings they won’t tell me”
The silent treatment was my family’s love language.
