• Asafum@feddit.nl
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    I’ll never understand that reaction. I completely understand seeing that and wanting to kill yourself, but I never thought the happy couple should die.

    I see those kinds of couples and my only thoughts are usually some form of “lucky lucky. I’m such a worthless piece of shit.” Lol

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      Armchair psychology by your local dipshit:

      Depression tends to be irrational, and thus thought processes around it tend to be irrational.

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        “if i can’t have it, nobody should have it”

        also applies to everyone who opposes progress because they had it hard in life

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              If I was in power we’d deal with them alright. Forced relocation to Bitterville, with a dictatorial mayor hell bent on fixing nothing.

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          I kinda get that. Its like trying to be happy for a billionaire who lives in a castle whilst you can barely afford rent.

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            Except people having it easier due to progress comes at the cost of nobody, while billionaires having it good comes at great cost to everybody but them.

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              I’d argue that progress always comes at a cost to something, loss of jobs, rarer to mine minerals, loss in quality to meet demand, etc. But I hear ya

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                Yea for sure, but the cost-benefit is usually (hopefully) pretty skewed. Like even redistributing wealth from billionaires comes at a ‘cost’ to the billionaires, but the downside is their bank account number is smaller (which, who cares). I know you’re not disagreeing btw, just adding to the discussion.

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            this doesn’t really apply to billionaires, the same people who oppose things like student debt forgiveness will also lick billionaires’ boots and present them as the role models of the “american dream”

            it’s the bitter people who had it hard in life, and think new generations having it easier is something bad, it’s unfair, even though as a civilisation we should all strive to make life easier for those who come after us. but no “if i had it bad in life, you have to go through the same, or you’re not really [insert whatever group you feel like, man/woman/american/minority]”, as if struggle and suffering was a right of passage

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      It probably depends on your personality, mainly agreeableness.

      Agreeable people direct their anger and frustration at themselves, while those who are disagreeable direct it at others.

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        That makes a lot of sense and I do tend to score high in agreeableness when I’ve taken those silly personality tests

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      I’ll never understand that reaction.

      The experience probably felt painful (literally) for Anon so his lizard brain immediately wanted to strike back at what’s causing the pain. Doesn’t make much sense of course so he didn’t actually do it, probably felt bad about it too.

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      Now imagine you had more than a good shot, and you where the one who rejected her. How would you feel, looking back and seeing you where an idiot?

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        Fucking hell, you have to forgive your past self for being a dumbass. Everyone’s past self was an idiot literally because they didn’t know what present self knows.

        Forgive your past and focus on working your present for what you want for your future self.

        It’s not hippy-dippy bullshit, it’s literally the foundational principle for doing anything in life like getting fitter, starting a business, learning a new skill / subject, improving your dating prospects, etc.

        If you only wallow in your past mistakes and not doing the teeny-tiniest improvements of literally 1% or 0.1%, then you’re not living, you’re just dying slowly. Living is much more fun.