For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.

They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.

    • SmilingSolaris@lemmy.world
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      8 days ago

      Not to everyone, and that’s cool, until someone tells you not to call them dude anymore. Then your an asshole if you try to argue the gender neutrality of the term dude. Such as telling someone to get over it.

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        That’s like anything. If my name is Abigail and I don’t wanna be called Abby, I don’t have to hear an excuse as to why you wanna call me Abby. If someone isn’t comfortable being called a thing and they tell you so, you fucking abide by that. Everything else is weirdo behavior.

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        Using “dudes” as a common noun, is different from using “dude” as a vocative, apples to oranges my dude

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      So is bitch, but if you ask someone to stop calling you bitch and they tell you to get over it, then they’re assholes.

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            You’re arguing that the context is subjective to the word provided yes? Yet your example is also subjective, clearly when your friends call you bitch it’s not meant as an insult. I can’t think of a single instance in which using dude as an insult is going to get someone offended on purpose, where bitch definitely can be used purposefully.

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              Dude can be used as an insult when used to refer to someone who specifically said they don’t want to be called dude. I don’t know why this is so hard for you. If people don’t want to be called something, don’t call them that. Definitely don’t tell them it’s their fault if they’re offended and they need to get over it.

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                Yeah that’s not how language works, that’s how pestering works, just because you don’t like to be called Apple and I call you an apple doesn’t mean that apple is now magically an insult word.

                I don’t know why this is so hard for you

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                    Nah, an insult would be me telling you “okay boomer” then blocking you to end this dumb back and forth

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          This community only has one rule so far: if you’re gonna troll, it had better be clever and entertaining. Make of that what you will.