I identified as bi in high school. By college I was engaged to another woman, and decided to call myself a lesbian, because my assumption was that I would spend the rest of my life in a lesbian relationship. Once we broke up, I just comfortably dropped any specific label. I guess I’m bi by definition. My current live-in boyfriend is also bi. Neither of us really care to define ourselves anymore. We’re with each other as a straight couple, so to the world we’re straight. Our friends and family already know our dating history before we got together, and are supportive no matter how we identify.

I guess as I’ve gotten older, I’ve cared less about labels. Date who you want, love who you love, and be kind to yourself. If your label is important to you, you have a right to vocalize it and embrace it. But don’t feel like you have to paint yourself into a corner. To quote the old MySpace adage: labels are for soup cans <3