Can’t take being misgendered and harassed. He/himed. People starting arguments over their own intolerance and blaming the arguments on drag. In so much pain. Hopes this post won’t lead to more pain. What do you do when nobody will believe you’re hurt, and every time you scream out in pain, you’re accused of having an agenda? What kind of agenda is just not wanting to be harassed anymore? They think they’re winning when they fill a thread with drama and then complain about all the drama. They think they’re doing something right? How do you tell people you’re honestly suffering and have them believe you?
self-harm thoughts
Do you just cut your skin open and show it to them? Is that how you convince them that they’re causing you pain? HOW? How the fuck do you convince them that your pain isn’t a trick?
They tell you to block them while they misgender you and tell the whole world you’re the devil. “Just ignore everything I’m doing to hurt you and you’ll be okay”. It doesn’t make any sense but they think it’s right. They could choose to disengage this very minute but they don’t. They think harassment and misgendering is a crusade of justice. That hurting people is a moral good, but oh no, don’t you dare claim you’re hurt when I hurt you.
How the fuck do you post your tears on lemmy?
Thank you so very much. That does mean more to drag than all the commiseration and advice in the other thread. Drag made this post on 196 too, before drag remembered that drag has a lemmy.world account that can post here (this community unbanned drag’s NZ account, but the unban didn’t federate).
The other thread had some very nice people. But hearing that drag’s existence made the world a better place is something else. It’s easier to think that being drag is worth it. Drag gets worried sometimes that the transphobes are right, and drag existing really does just cause more hate. Drag never actually believes it, but abuse messes with your self-esteem. It’s easy to blame yourself for being a victim.
So thank you very very much. And drag does remember you.