But now I’m lying awake, and I’m stressing so much. I’m really scared they don’t like me. I’m scared it was all pretend for the sake of being polite. I think I was obnoxious at points, and I said a couple of dumb things. I’m scared they saw me as attention seeking, like I was trying to be the most important person in the room. I’m so ashamed. What do I do with myself? I haven’t visited friends in a very long time, so it’s been very long since I’ve had to deal with this feeling
If you had a good time chatting, they probably did too. Sometimes i have an extra drink and get too talkative and laugh too loud, but my friends look past my faults and like me anyway. I’m sure yours will too.
I hope so, thank you
I struggle with this as well. I try to remember that I should offer myself the same compassion I have for others. Chances are you weren’t thinking that they were dumb or attention-seeking, and they weren’t thinking that about you. I think it is so awesome that you were able to visit with them!
Thank you. It’s so hard to give yourself compassion, isn’t it? It feels like dismissing the issue entirely, and I do think I need to be better
@D-ISS-O-CIA-TED@kbin.social YES! Giving yourself compassion and having patience with yourself is really hard, I struggle with that too. I’ve heard people say treat yourself like you treat others, cause I am usually way more understanding of others than I am myself. It’s not as easy as simply thinking that and it becomes reality, but it is helpful for me to remember and come back to.
Some people will say “it’s ok to be yourself” and I don’t agree. Social interactions come naturally to many but not everyone.
Its good that you’re thinking about how those interactions went, and learning from that post-interaction review.
It’s bad that you feel bad about it. You shouldn’t feel negative about who you are. Look at each interaction as a learning engagement that you improve upon each time.
What you say is true. I agree, myself isn’t a good thing to be. But it’s hard not to fall into “Possibly did bad -> feel bad”
