‘It’s not you, it’s me’ is the gist of college student qualms with dating apps. Hook-up culture declines while young people search for genuine connection.

‘It’s not you, it’s me’ is the gist of college student qualms with dating apps. Hook-up culture declines while young people search for genuine connection.

  • Captain Aggravated@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    56·
    8 months ago

    I never had a problem getting women back when I actually left the house. Sophomore year of high school until I got a job at the airport, I practically always had a girlfriend. This included going to ERAU, a campus with 1 female for every 8 males. I had a girlfriend within weeks of arriving on campus.

    I disappeared into that work-home to sleep-work thing for a couple years, ended up going back to school at yet another very male dominated aviation school, and I wound up with the only chick in our class.

    All the while I have never once gotten a date through a personals site or app; I have a feeling there’s a question or two on the profile that they shadowban you for the wrong answer, such as being 5’7", or I suspect being non-christian. To put this into a time scale for you, it feels weird to call them “dating apps” and not “dating sites” because I gave up on the whole idea before “Mobile First.”

    I’m single right now for one very simple reason: I don’t leave the house much.

    Edit: to those who have downvoted this comment, could you explain to me why. Let’s have this conversation.

    • SnipingNinja@slrpnk.netEnglish
      2·
      8 months ago

      Same here, I have succeeded in wooing partners even on social media, but getting matches on dating apps has been nigh impossible for some reason.

    • canni@lemmy.oneEnglish
      1·
      8 months ago

      You should just leave your height and religion out of your tinder profile man

      • Captain Aggravated@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        2·
        8 months ago

        I gave up on online dating before Tinder was a thing. The dating sites I did try had those as fields.

        Also…I hate religion, and that is very important to who I am as a person, and hatred of religion is an important trait I look for in a mate, so.

        • canni@lemmy.oneEnglish
          1·
          8 months ago

          So you gave up online dating a decade ago? The Internet has come a long way since then.

          I don’t know what you’re looking for, but I would urge you to give it another try if you’re not finding what you want. It’s not magic, but it will simply put you in front of a lot more people than you would otherwise see. If your perfect match is a 1 in 1000 you’ve got way better odds running into them online than via random chance IRL.

          • Captain Aggravated@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            1·
            8 months ago
            1. Yes, the internet has come a long way since then. In 2013 the internet was cold and unfeeling, in 2023 the internet is openly hostile and evil.
            2. I’m not looking for anything. Not anymore. And finding plenty of it.
            3. My perfect match isn’t on Tinder; she’s married and working for some logistics firm in Texas last I heard. We were together for two short years and it’s my fault I lost her.
            4. I’ve dated since then and discovered just what caliber of person is on the 21st century market. In related news: I don’t often leave the house anymore. By deliberate choice. 5, To recommend online dating in this thread of all places you must have the reading comprehension of a tube worm.
            • canni@lemmy.oneEnglish
              1·
              8 months ago

              Cool man. Enjoy your lonely, bitter life I guess. I will continue enjoying mine with the partner I found online.