This is not trying to excuse how Butcher writes women, because I do find it gross, but I think the difference between Dresden Files and Codex Alera is that Dresden started out as an ode to old school hard-boiled detective novels, which gave Butcher some cover to let his sexism fly unchecked. Again, this is not an excuse, because he didn’t have to write his women as hollow sex vamps to evoke the hard-boiled aura he was going for; he chose to do that. Plus, there’s plenty of scenes where Harry is trying to be chivalrous, and you can tell that Butcher has no idea how deeply misogynistic his idea of chivalry is (a good amount of those scenes are just masturbatory fantasies wherein Harry eventually decides to do the “right thing”)