I want to have a nice sexual surprise for my partner. What would you do/have done that works?

(Not going to break up with them, just getting ahead of that train.)

  • Trainguyrom@reddthat.comEnglish
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    1 year ago

    If it’s a toy, before engaging in intercourse say “Look what I’ve got!”

    If it’s an act, first ask if you may surprise them in intercourse, then once you have that consent be extremely ready to stop everything if they don’t like it. Remember that consent can be revoked at any time and it’s important for any sexual partner to respect that

  • dumples@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    As mentioned before don’t try anything too crazy without explicit discussion and consent. I really recommend Hot and Unbothered if you want to work on your sexual communication.

    But if you want to get started before the book I recommend a Yes, No, Maybe list. Is is pretty common recommendation from sex positive therapists and kinksters. It’s basically a long list of every sexual thing you can think of. Without judgement you mark which ones you are Yes, No and Maybe about. Then you have a common list of new things in the Yes category you can try and some aspirational ones in Maybes. There are some templates online if you want to use them as a source