I have a cousin, 35, Male, who has always been susceptible to conspiracy. He listened to Rush and other right wing favs when we were younger, and after a mildly messy divorce, I’m afraid he’s pivoted to blaming women for everything (including, and especially, male urges).
Along with his heroes, he’s committed to anti-intellectualism. I almost miss the tea party days.
Recently he’s been reading self published books with titles like “Analyzing the ROI on Pursuing Women,” and “Why women deserve less.” They bizarrely juxtapose tidbits from economics onto ravings about value and gender that don’t make sense. Weird that he trusts random opinions and not researchers who at least provide rigorous reasoning for their theories, but I digress.
As a lady, it’s hard to care about the dude, but I do feel like I should say -something-. Does anyone have ideas?
If, and this is a big if, you want to help, understanding is the best course of action.
You mention a (from your perspective) “mildly messy” divorce. Leaving aside the fact that I don’t know what value you assign to those words, it suggests an early dismissal of a, probably traumatic event.
Construed like this, a lack of desire for understanding might be implicit. People don’t just wake one day hating about 4 billion sentient beings just for shit and giggles.
You have to understand that, as you wish to be seen, understood and treated as a person and to people to act accordingly, this man, this family of yours also wishes to be seen, understood save treated as a person and for people to act accordingly to it too.
Do you best