Why some men bully and hate on women who post here their own images? Specifically women who have a link in their bio.

As somebody who is not enjoying watching nor listening to ads, I understand that part, but we still get to see those beautiful/sexy photos/videos for free.

And even those women who post without any aggressive promotion, variety of content (not recycling the same photo in different sub-communities), not providing any links directly in their posts nor asking for anything and just enjoying being social, get attacked too. Why?

What has happened to live and let live? Why being so rude and disrespectful? I truly don’t get it.

I mean I have a theory, but I would hate to offend anyone, it’s just not in me to be disrespectful, so I keep it to myself for now.

That said, I also would like to acknowledge that vast majority of Lemmy NSWF members are awesome and many thanks to you all for building this fun community.

  • Cynthias Cheeks @lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    I’ve only been on here for a few days and gotten some weird hate comments. I know my look is not for most people and that is fine, but I’ve gotten more negative comments here than I ever did on Reddit in just a few days. It’s just weird that people rather spend more time looking at my pic they don’t like to post a negative comment. 🤷‍♀️

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      1 year ago

      I’m truly sorry your experience with Lemmy is so negative. You look badass and beautiful, and I hope you don’t let this negativity get into you.

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      1 year ago

      Yeah I’ve seen those comments and downvoted them. I’m sorry you have to deal with that crap. I for one haven’t been back to reddit since the protests began so I’m glad you are here! 😀

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        1 year ago

        Thank you for your kind words. I’m secure and mature enough as an individual to not let these comments bother me, but I just wonder why someone even posts negative comments vs just scrolling, engaging in content they don’t like and its just weird.

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        1 year ago

        I was never on Reddit really. I joined donkey years ago and never used it. Then forgot my account name and password. I created a new one recently but I kinda don’t get good vibes on Reddit at all.

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      1 year ago

      Yeah very weird. You can easily block people or groups who are following guidelines but who you don’t want to see posts! 😞

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        1 year ago

        Granted one of the hate comments was pretty funny so I hope they try to be creative like that in the future lol. But yeah it’s just weird behavior, makes me think they’re mad at me for not being their typical fap material but I still gave them a hard on.

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      1 year ago

      It’s honestly just self-defeating and stupid, even from an absolutely selfish perspective by men who do nothing but consume porn. Thinking about it: if you want amazing ladies to share amazing nudes, you need to create a positive environment. No matter what a woman looks like, she may have misgivings about sharing. So you have to make the environment a wall-to-wall positive, thankful, and respecting one. It’s basic math.

      If it becomes a place where people get judged by their looks and then “win” or “lose” then guess what? No one’s going to fucking post.

      I wish these kids would pull their heads out of their ass and get this. I learned it by observing the polyamorous communities I have encountered. There is, as a rule, zero shaming, and every woman is a queen. But then I think many of these twerps have never even had sex at all let alone figured out the dynamics of a sexually free community. Fucking kids.

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        1 year ago

        100%. I replied to someone else with an apology. If I went to a painting forum and saw someone’s original painting I didn’t like but was otherwise on subject and was well executed I’m not gonna downvote or make a nasty comment. I don’t like certain art styles and that is fine but that doesn’t make it any less of a painting that should be shown off.