Hiya ladies,
Today I’m trying to understand how to let go of the mean, unhappy boy I never wanted to be, and embrace the passionate, loving girlie I dream of becoming.
Before I was brave enough to accept myself I was self-isolating, over eating, and indulging in various other coping mechanisms for short term, unsustainable dopamine hits. I was also mean, anti-social, and very standoffish because I thought that’s who people expected me to be.
Now I want to be, need to be, someone completely different, letting out the parts of myself that I suppressed for so long I forgot they were even there. How did you do it? How did you unlearn those almost instinctive behaviours and defence mechanisms that keep people away and keep your real self buried and suffocating?
Thank you in advance <3
I am not a trans. I am a white cis male. I’m including this info because you asked from post transition people, but I wanted to answer anyway.
What you are asking, i.e. “how to get rid of bad habits” is a question most people struggle with when they want to improve themselves, so don’t worry if there is no clear cut answer.
I would simply advice you to try to embrace who you want to be and don’t be too strict on yourself. Try to be who you want to be and if you sometimes lapse, that’s okay too.