Context : when i go to a restaurant or a party or anything i have always felt that there should be a culture to clean our own plate like if i just tried to do that at a party or in a restuarant people would think i am weird and the staff will stop me . Like i always thought that cleaning other peoples plate was kinda degrading as in i wouldn’t like to do that myself . So i am think that whole culture should change . This is the reason i kinda prefer takeouts . What are your thoughts on this ? (Disclaimer : I do not work in the food industry it is just my opinion and i am sure some people who work there would agree) .
Edit : i am not implying these kinda jobs are degrading but when the consumer is perfectly healthy and capable and is just demanding this service because they are paying and the food industry workers have to do it is kinda degrading atleast in my eyes.
EDIT : Also i am not implying the servers don’t have to do anything i am saying the customer should deploy the waste in the basket and give it a little rinse under the water with some soap . Ofcourse the staff still should clean it for food safety . And maybe the price could be a little lower not by much because you still pay the same for in restaurant dining and take away.
You’re obviously trying to be thoughtful, and to a certain extent this is entirely subjective. If you, as any decent person would, think there are lines that you do not cross and that you treat service professionals with respect, then where is the line? You definitely don’t throw shit on the floor intentionally, but you also don’t offer to help cook, which you might at a family dinner. Every non-shitty person person will land somewhere in between, though hopefully a good ways away from throwing shit on the floor.
I think you’re just running into a situation where your line is in a different place than other folks’, to the point where you’re a little out of step with the level of “help with the chores” that most people expect at a sit-down restaurant. If you continue to treat staff with respect, thank them for their help, and (if culturally appropriate/economically necessary) tip generously, then you don’t have to feel bad. My wife waited tables and tended bar for many years, and it’s not the specific tasks that are part of the job that ever made it feel degrading, it was people treating her shabbily and acting superior. No one expects you to clear the table when you’re out; just don’t act like you’re too good to.