Humans aren’t evolved to be great at stuff on their own. In the hunter-gatherer days we couldn’t hunt large animals alone, but required a group effort. We couldn’t stay safe from predation or survive a cold winter as an individual. So we formed groups. Expulsion from the group meant certain death. So we evolved with a survival instinct that screams “YOU WILL DIE IF YOU OFFEND SOMEONE” that is a bit of an over reaction for today’s society, but here we are.
Humans aren’t evolved to be great at stuff on their own. In the hunter-gatherer days we couldn’t hunt large animals alone, but required a group effort. We couldn’t stay safe from predation or survive a cold winter as an individual. So we formed groups. Expulsion from the group meant certain death. So we evolved with a survival instinct that screams “YOU WILL DIE IF YOU OFFEND SOMEONE” that is a bit of an over reaction for today’s society, but here we are.
Neuroscience of Self and Self-Regulation: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3056504/