I aim to be more human. I aim to be less apathetic as a human. Apathy grows, like a tree, and I aim to prune my own.

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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023

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  • Definitely no manipulation. She’s already my beneficiary for all things because I lead a life of mostly intentional solitude. It’s a “wait you actually would be on board with my lifestyle, like long term???” Sort of thing. I’m more surprised she’d want to be my… partner in life… than anything… i know she has a lot more friends than I do, but that’s part of the perk.

    She comes from money, she doesn’t need me. She wants to use her family connections to further my goals because they resonate with hers. She wants to do things with me because we agree on what to do and how, that or I’m super naive and fuck it at that point cuz I’m old and let’s see if it helps?

    But I don’t have offspring or anything so it’s sort of whatever. See what happens.



  • Thanks for taking the time to engage with this :) she and I both do want a lifelong mutual benefit partnership. She sees me as a companion perk the same way I see having someone to inherit as a perk (we have very different lives, and that’s ok with both of us)

    Legally bound actually because she’s already set to inherit everything I own if shit goes south. The wedding is just a fun social perk o guess. This would give her guardianship, which I trust her with, and would give her some nice VA perks (I am a vet) whether I die or not.

    We’ve never lived together, but that’s not necessary - I live poorly with people and am aware of that fact, which is why I have plans to section off my house if it ever comes to that. Her cats and mine won’t live well together anyway, just like I don’t live well with other people. But there’s plenty of room and it would be a really minor alteration. We split it off ostensibly for the cats and we both benefit from having an “apartment” in my place.


  • Gosh friend, I appreciate the vote of confidence, but really I can’t pull off that innocent - but not at all ~_^ - cute thing you’ve got going on. It’s just not in my wheelhouse and that’s ok. I’m that tiny 5ft inclusive feminist asshole who lets dudes have it at the slightest hint of misogyny or phobia, that’s my place. I’m pegged as a man more often than most of my mtf friends are, despite appearing fully feminine, because I’m no longer performing my femininity in a way cishet men are ok with. And I like it this way.

    You are rocking it, hun! You remind me, in this pic, of a woman I knew in my early 20s (also mtf, lovely lady!) She went and fixed my car for me by ripping off a part that’s unnecessary, and then put on this adorable geisha gown and we hit the town. Fucking blast, but she pulled off the gown so so much better than I could have because she just had the personality, the vibe, the towering 6 foot presence that makes you go “O.O…. ~_^”

    You have that sort of vibe and I’m here for it!






  • In that case, I’d recommend the sanding, then a wipe down with bleach for the algae, then primer impregnated with a fungicide like Zinsser mold blocking primer (just an epa-approved example, but decent place to start). It’ll form a barrier between the raw degraded plastic and the paint (so anything existing won’t continue to grow), as well as helping prevent molds from growing in the new paint layers.

    Just wait for a really dry day to do it (much as you can, you know, or if you have a garage you can run a dehumidifier in that may work too), and let the paint dry for a long time between coats to prevent any moisture trapping.




  • I’m distro hopping because Ubuntu was perfect for me in basically every way, but I don’t want to be locked to a closed distro…

    I haven’t found anything I like yet, and I don’t have the skills (or motivation) to make core Debian feel the same.

    I’ll probably end up back on Ubuntu, at least for my server machine… it just worked the way I wanted it to, and the ui was lovely for me. Plus it’s stable enough that I can just keep it up indefinitely without issue.


  • Probably best option is to sand it, prime it, and repaint it. Use a UV resistant paint made for plastic or UV resistant top coat, and should be good for several more years.

    The green black gunk is probably algae, maybe with mildew (guessing you live somewhere that gets humid, or at least takes a while to dry from dew) so feel free to wipe it down with bleach or a fungicide after sanding but before you paint it.




  • I think Mozilla has something like this as well (also a subscription).

    I’m of the opinion that, at this point, one of the best infosec things a company could do is include a subscription like this (assuming they are safe and work as intended) for all employees as part of their compensation package, much the way they sometimes provide financial consulting services or gym memberships. Maybe one of the providers will start offering enterprise packages.

    If we could purge large quantities of data on employees, it would be that much harder to use social engineering for hacking. As a bonus, if enough people got themselves purged, it would entirely disrupt the data harvesting and selling models, potentially making them worthless. That would be a huge win.

    But I don’t think many people are going to pay for it themselves. They just won’t care that much. So as a work perk, it incentivizes them to use it by being free.

    I’m not in IT or anything, but my close friend is in security, so it’s something I consider quite a bit.

    Edit to add: obviously I’d rather see it illegal to collect data and sell it and all but that’s not going to happen any time soon, and this could be a lot faster. And if it becomes a business expense, businesses might just push for legislation…




  • So I’m not a biologist either but I’m going to speculate on the temp thing. (Somewhat educated speculation - science of all varieties is my jam)

    Basically my hypothesis is that between insulation and size, they aren’t capable of losing heat fast enough to fall below their baseline temp, but any old temp would probably have worked fine, as long as their fats stay liquid (and for all I know that’s 36C, but that seems highly unlikely - you’d want to be several degrees warmer in case of emergency, else you’d get stiff and die for sure).

    They have a nice layer of fat for insulation and that’s all well and good, but they are massively huge and a lot more spherical than most animals. So, they have a small surface area to volume ratio, and lose heat slower as a result. And because they are huge, and muscle twitch is heat generating (to say nothing of leaky heat-producing brown fat, idk if they have this, but most mammals seem to for thermoregulation), they likely produce a gob of heat internally just existing. Much like we believe the larger dinosaurs were endothermic due to sheer size (and some evidence from their bone structure).

    Side note - Imagine how many calories it would take to maintain basal metabolic rate when you are losing that heat to 4C water at literally all times. It takes us about 1500-2000 calories for this function and we only lose heat to air that’s relatively close to our body temp.

    I did a super quick scan of melting points of various fats, and while without knowing exact compositions of whale blubber idk the melting point, a surprising amount of the animal fats we use for cooking melt around 25-40C, with most large terrestrial animals (cow, pig, deer, etc.) falling between 32-40C (goose fat was the 25C).

    If their composition hadn’t worked, though, they could have evolved a polyunsaturated fat (like fish oil) with a lower melting point.

    Anyway, thanks for coming to my ted talk ;)