Seems like you have already chosen your path. Nonetheless: don’t get those fake boobs. No fake boob could reach the real ones and you need to renew them after 10-15 years. And: each time you will get new scars and new pain… Seems like a bad deal.

The banner is big enough to contain multiple pussies with different appearance. So no one is going to think some are unwanted. The icon is another and much more difficult problem… Maybe changing it from time to time?

Creating another account over at their instance would do the thing too I guess?