Carrying on the legacy of Deng Xiaoping

comparing the v-man to kaustsky is an insult to kautsky

Mr. Satan did something much cooler; he saved the Earth from cell!!!

tangentially related but i’ve been watching dragonball from the start with some friends and its shockingly good (in spite of the horny old man trope)

You get nice compliments from strangers because they’re an economic status signifier.

omg just like in morrowind

same

Christian brainworms i think

every single fucking time a friend of mine gets a romantic partner they suddenly never want to spend any time with me anymore. cos it’s totally normalized in society that you should prioritize romantic partners so heavily

Stay safe comrade, sucks out there sometimes

Sorry if this is invalidating, idk how to phrase my feelings or put together my thoughts in a encompassing way here. I want it to be comforting but as an allo person I’m also being kind-of defensive here and honestly I’m worried about that being a toxic behavior from me

No worries comrade.

Your Catan comparison is spot on tbh. I’d only add that that allonormativity also says “it is more important to play catan with someone you are sexing with than a regular friend”

internalized assumptions about whether or not someone actually values you

Less assumption, more observation that sometimes some of my friends will disappear for indeterminate amounts of time because they’ve found partners then reappear when relationship ends

angry at a lot of other people about it. I’d encourage you to consider that these larger cultural dynamics are a lot like capitalism and other systems

I’d encourage you to consider that I’m angry at those larger systems and my post was about those larger systems. Just as when e.g. my grandmother says something racist I have anger both at her and the larger system.

as individuals we are near powerless to change them, and we’ll die tired and angry if we spend our energies raging against them

I…don’t? I made two hexbear comments when prompted by mention of kink at pride discourse.

If we want to see change in the larger social world, we need to join with organizations to do so

I…have? Was at a party meeting just last night

So for your own sanity, spend your efforts and energy on the things that are close to you that you can change, friends and family. Build your supportive circles so you can have some more enjoyment in your own personal life.

I…am? Again I made two hexbear comments complaining about the systemic normalisation of allosexual/romantic values, I’m not sure why you seem (sorry for assuming) to think this is consuming me constantly

ah, sorry for misreading comrade

What do you want from the queer community? Friendship? This is one of those situations where having more community outside of bars and nightclubs would help a lot.

I would like solidarity and for other queer people to not make me feel less queer because I’m not into sex or romance. I dont go to nightclubs, so Im afraid that advice is not very relevant.

Queer culture is always going to revolve around sex and romance, for better or for worse.

Indeed, and that makes me sad and depressed. I dont imagine/think/want it to change, but I feel like i should be at least allowed to complqin about how alienating it is

Real

I’m sorry to have reminded you of people IRL making queer spaces unsafe for you and your friends.

I have no idea where/why the accusation of bad faith (or especially queer and kinkphobia) is coming from, and wish you’d explain more rather than telling me that my (probably too genuine) depressed 2AM rant based on my experiences with other queer people is bad faith stuff meant to hide some real message.

I have never supported removing kink at pride. Largely I dont go to pride events bc 1. Loud and 2. Lots of people and 3. Usually unmasked people. My issues with allosexuality and romance are pmuch the same issues a lotta my gay friends have with cis romance/sexuality (i.e. its omnipresent, shoved in face, held up as super important for maturity, universal, most important relationship etcetc). Kink doesnt make me uncomfortable, as generqlly the people into various kinks arent the hegemonic group in society constantly shouting “be like me or you are worth less as a human being”.

real

its the constant, casual allosexuality and alloromanticism creeping into every crevice of human life that rly fucks with me

the constant reminders of ‘your friends will never consider you important as someone they’re smashing privates (or hoping to) with’, ‘society won’t consider you an adult until you get a partner’, and ‘some [a lot ] of people are nice just for sex’ stuff that gets to me

and how all this means that basically every media has romance and sex–if it doesn’t the fans will turn every platonic interaction into a sexualromantic thing because “people just don’t [hug/cuddle/be a decent human being] unless they want sex or romance”

And even if there is sex or romance, fans will turn all the platonic relationships sexual anyway because “they have better chemistry” or “it’s obvious Sam really wants to sex/romance Frodo; there’s no other reason he’d go so far for him”

just,

As one of the “sex repulsed ace” folks who gets shot at / tokenised / ignored / etc by all sides

Allosexuality deeply normalised and world is scream. Can’t use goddamn pleading emotes anymore because the goddamn allosexuals stole the goddamn emote to mean “bottom” and have turned anxious behaviours, nervousness, etc, into sexualised “bottom behaviour” to contrast “top behaviour” (fucking hell my fellow queers have recreated masculine and feminine gender roles down to their association with sexual behaviour! Infuriating!).

Also its fucking creepy that “pickup line” “stutter/blush/etc” “kissing / etc” being taken as “consent” is BACK but now its fine bc its gay? Like god i don’t want my anxieties taken as “i just secretly want the hornies??”

Oh and the jokes from other queers about turning everyone gay etcetc and i’m like “fuck you i don’t wanna be gay i hate this whole sex and romance thing”

So yeah notta fun month here ! ! !

kind of them to send manure to help out the south’s agriculture

I’ve heard mixed things. Where I live, they have a bad reputation, but I have friends online who are in the party in other cities who say it’s alright. Probably varies by specific party club to some extent.