ObamaSama [he/him]

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Cake day: May 28th, 2024

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  • I’ve met some really good people through dating apps but it really is a numbers game. I’d say that on average out of 100 matches I only have 4-5 conversations that last longer than a few days before one of loses interest and stops replying. It can be pretty disheartening to churn through so many people but from my experience it pays to be picky. I’ve only ever been on 5 dates through dating apps but they all turned into relationships because I didn’t waste my time with anyone I didn’t feel a mutual connection with.

    Stick with it and eventually you’ll find someone, just gotta be patient. Also it depends on where you are but I’ve found bumble to be the best as the girls on there are usually much more serious


  • I bounced off of other paradox games pretty quickly but this one grabbed me immediately. Like others have said, it’s a materialism simulator where your internal politics actually matter and are directly affected by how you play. It’s also a lot of microing supply and demand of various resources with local and global economies interacting. It’s less plotting to assassinate a rival leader and more plotting to tank their economy by becoming the biggest exporter of steel. There are a lot of systems going on but for me it felt really intuitive just from a basic understanding of material drivers of politics and economics






  • I’m in Sapporo right now and it’s unfortunately nearly burger levels of car brain. The buses and trains run once or twice an hour with very limited routes, I couldn’t even go to the big national park just south of here via public transit. My gf was quite shocked at how poor the public transit here compared to Tokyo so just be aware that if you come to Hokkaido you really need a car





  • Excellent post, I had not put the pieces together to see that shared underlying belief that neatly explains the overlap between granola types and rabid conservatives. It perfectly demonstrates how deeply reactionary and individualistic the “hippie” movement is at its core despite all of the surface level posturing to pretend otherwise.

    I used to wonder what the hell happened to make the “progressive” free love generation 180 into a bunch of miserable reactionaries but it seems that it wasn’t much of a pivot after all. A little strategic dismantling of any actually effective organizing (and assassination of key leaders) was all it took to let people lapse back into a comfortable, self serving position that upholds their class interests while still being nominally progressive.









  • Damn I wish, I’d be all over the pretentious introvert app. I totally understand you though, I’ve been hitting a wall of meeting really beautiful, fun people that I don’t have any interest in because we don’t actually talk. A physical connection can only go so far before things fizzle out. I mean it’s not like language doesn’t have its own inherent limitations that prevent you from truly connecting with someone but fuck it’s the best thing we have.

    You identified the unfortunate root of the problem: people that will talk your ear off about Lacan are probably not going to be out clubbing every weekend. Dating apps are realistically one of the only ways but it’s still so hard to find like minded people there. I really wish I had a solution for ya, still trying to figure that one out myself. Try not to chalk it up as a personal failure though, being single is absolutely fine! It’s hard to do but the more you put yourself out there and open yourself to new experiences the better your odds will be. You can occasionally get lucky and meet the coolest person in your life at a temple stay deep in some Korean mountains but it never lasts 😭