Two things:

1. Threaten to leave her after a fallout with alcohol. When she is the lowest with a bad hangover this will help her realize it can get even worse!
2. Leave her if she does not stop.

My wife did the same to me. Only thing that really worked.

She needs to decide it is time to stop drinking. Otherwise it will never happen.

Maybe move in with a relative to show you are serious and only come back after her first session with a therapist.

Well I feel the same. Sole breadwinner, 43 years old, but no kids, I fucking loved the way it was. Maybe also because I am not in the US.

Its those video screensavers that transition into wallpapers. I had no idea they were there if you did not use them. Maybe make a backup then delete and see if anything breaks.

Those are the dynamic Wallpapers:

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