WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

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Cake day: December 31st, 2023

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  • Like, I’m the sperm donor, not the one who carried them for nine months.

    Neither of my moms birthed us and that doesn’t make them any less of moms. And we don’t even talk to the person who birthed us (we probably have talked to our formally anonymous sperm donor more recently and are on better terms with him). You shouldn’t let irrelevant things make you feel like you are less of a mom. If its a compromise for your children, that seems like a good enough reason to accept “dad”, but you shouldn’t feel like you would be an imposter (or you should at least realize those feelings aren’t rational).





  • The live-action “adaptation” of Death Note wasn’t terrible. Calling it an adaptation is a bit generous (more like a separate story in a similar universe) and it nowhere near lives up the source material. But it was alright - seems mostly just hated because of people’s expectations of what it claimed to be an adaptation. In general, media that differs significantly from the source material (even if the source material didn’t exist at the time, like with Fullmetal Alchemist) gets more hate than it deserves.

    Black Bullet seems to have some really negative opinions, but I’m a fan of that genre of shows like Tokyo Ghoul where main characters are some sort of social pariah because of non-human features (guess I find them relatable).

    Non-animated, but “In Time” 2011 was a movie I enjoyed quite a bit, but found out later that people generally have a slightly negative view of it I think.




  • I realized I was some flavor of trans about two years ago. At first, I considered myself agender and not cis, but didn’t accept the trans label (that didn’t last long so its still about 2 years either way - I still like the agender label I think, but also consider myself transfem). Started HRT almost 3 weeks ago.

    Part of the delay was not sure HRT was right for me. Specifically didn’t know if boobs were something I wanted to deal with, so I tested them out via breast forms, including going cosplay back in November.

    Another is I worried about how it would affect my ability to earn money, so I wanted to save up a lot first.

    Another reason for waiting is a I wanted to at least come out to my parents and sister before starting (which I still have not done).

    Anyways, finally decided to start because we were considering getting a house and if so, that would have delayed savings goals far too long. At the same time, my sister announced being pregnant and I realized I didn’t like the idea of being an uncle.

    I still am not certain and wonder if I should quit taking HRT. I don’t really have a reason why I should stop, but given I don’t consider myself a woman, it feels like I’m breaking some sort of rules that I intellectually don’t believe should exist (if someone wants HRT, it shouldn’t matter what their gender is). And of course anxiety related to discrimination is still a thing, particularly given my field of work and the state I’m in. Also, the anxiety of having an appointment for getting HRT (the lack of specific goals and using my very gendered birthname made me feel particularly like an imposter during the appointment) and anxiety starting (despite being really happy about it) I think triggered quite significant feelings of dissociation before I started, so at the time I started, my thoughts were basically “the me of a few days ago decided I should take this, so I’m going to, but I have a hard time feeling like that person was me and I feel disconnected for my current feelings.”