With respect for your writing, I couldn’t understand the argument against meeting people where they’re at. The wife approval factor is the tongue in cheek official benchmark for acceptance. It’s gentle wisdom that can be applied to all potential users, and I understand it to mean compromise is always needed unless your partner is also a FOSS advocate.

I love free software, but I come to it almost purely from a privacy perspective. And if privacy is the main goal, there is commercial software that doesn’t care about vacuuming up consumer data. So for some, including me, it’s only a question of risk - tolerance, appetite, and mitigation.

Admittedly I think I don’t yet understand the free software movement. My journey began with docker and self hosting some alternatives to big commercial software. There’s probably more need to explore why meeting users where they’re at is a good rule. Me as an example, I may have overlapping interests with free software but my motivations are different. Therefore the fundamental need for me to use a libre alternative to discord just isn’t there. That’s not to say I wouldn’t be able to appreciate libre more as I interacted with the software and community (regardless of the platform theyre talking on).

If you’re still trying to conceive, have patience and don’t put too much pressure on yourselves. It helped me to go through the mental exercise of thinking that even if we couldnt conceive for many years, I would still be happy and fulfilled by adopting and spending life with my partner that way.

It didn’t take us years, but it also didn’t take us one try. My doctor saw a low sperm count and that prompted some lifestyle changes. I biked to work every day, and stopped that, I cut out caffeine and alcohol, and I bought some boxers with some support and breathability. Those changes made the biggest difference in sperm count, as I was back up above average in under two months. By all means take the supplements they might offer, but the biggest outcomes will be from your own lifestyle changes.

Actually went to a theatre to see it. I like my films to be open to interpretation, not barely intelligible. Didn’t have a lot to talk about on the way home from that screening.

I believe in the boundless depths of the self. Beyond that I’m not sure.

Understanding why and how we’re even conscious entities, assuming I believe you guys even exist, is the question that still needs to be answered regardless of aliens becoming known to us.

The previous property owners are also suing the builder… Like why?

The home remains empty except for some squatters. Wowee

I think another big difference is Lemmy still feels like it is inviting at least a small amount of conversation. Whereas Reddit increasingly feels to me like it collectively prefers to upvote only one correct answer, and stamp down everything else.

I think with federation in general we have more of a chance to preserve what we value in each instance. Whether that is constructive conversation, or cited responses, or memes only/ no memes…

I look forward to being a part of multiple, quite different feeling networks of communities.

Who would stilton be in this family?

Beware of all enterprises that require new clothes, and not rather a new wearer of clothes. -Henry David Thoreau

CloudFlared is the application you run on your server, and CloudFlare tunnels are what it connects with. You get the same outcome as a ddns but it functions differently under the hood. You also need a domain name for this I think.

DuckDNS might be a good option to start out with.

You can try powerline adapters, MOCA adapters if you have coaxial cables running between rooms, flat Ethernet cables exist and might be easiest. I’m assuming you’re ruling out WiFi for some reason.

Op was subliminated

Lower concentration of water vapour in farts than in breath. So farts are not a visible in cold weather.

I think it’s more likely these will just get condensation from your natural body sweat.

I hate myself for engaging with this thread.

As others have pointed out, maybe look for a hobby.

Take baby steps towards becoming more involved in the things that youre passionate about. Housing affordability, the climate, and other things are on everyone’s mind these days, and maybe there’s something there that you have some strong feelings about. Look for virtual municipality or state/province public consultations about those things (e.g. new housing development consultations), and lend your voice to it. Meet new people with the same ideas.

Tldr, Try to make some of your free time into something self-directed, constructive and fulfilling (instead of passive algorithm surfing).

A combination of glusterfs, keepalived, and docker swarm might be for you.

Glusterfs to create a persistent storage pool for access from all nodes. Keepalived to create one dynamic and highly available network address to point everything external to. Docker swarm for the benefits of a cluster without all the k8s.

I think nexcloud lets you set quotas for user storage space.

Thinking about risk as a relatively new self hoster myself, there are two things that are out of my personal comfort zone for self hosting: nextcloud and password managers.

Enticing my own family and friends to my nextcloud instance is hard when I can’t guarantee their data will be 100% safe from accidents and loss. I chose to use a service like hetzner storage share (a hosted nextcloud instance), because it’s their business to handle all the risk.

As far as backup goes, if you want to self host, reduce your risk by following the 321 backup rule. Make a plan to invest in a rock solid backup strategy. I have high availability through a parity drive, and I use duplicati to send a weekly backup to the cloud of my entire unraid appdata folder. I sync my nextcloud instance to an unraid share. And once in a blue moon I copy important things to an external hard drive.

I feel like many people go for a cheap unlimited upload backup provider like backblaze, and reduce the risk of having to pay for downloading the backups from them by ensuring high availability and backup at home.

I had to make a choice between being able to be financially in the green and BG3. I’m afraid I won’t get to share your joy for at least a few months. I am so happy that the hype is real. Can’t wait!

Embrace the dark side expressing yourself without the perfection filter of spellcheck. Those squiggly red lines want you to be someone youre not. Punctuation prevents you from being you. Spell things your own way. Make up your own words.

Slashdot still gets the job done for tech and science news.

Somewhat related is the concept of ontological shock. Most recently saw a post on Reddit about it, linked below. I can relate to the idea of my brain building a running narrative of how the world works, and fitting information into that framework on the fly. When I come across things that don’t fit into that framework it’s easy to dismiss the information and run towards people that share that worldview. Ontological shock happens when you reexamine the core of your worldview based on irrefutable new information, and realize that your existing framework of predicting and understanding things in the world no longer works. Facsinating stuff, and it truly shows that we can absolutely be living in completely different realities than our neighbours.

https://www.reddit.com/r/UFOs/comments/145kwhw/ontological_shock_is_real_and_you_should_treat_it/

Do you download the 4k Linux ISOs?