• WhipperSnapper@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    I this a phone calls thing, or just a talking to people at all thing? Like, is it difficult to have a conversation with someone at dinner, for example?

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      1 year ago

      For me it is phone calls specifically, that are more stressful than any other type of communication.

      Face to face with a stranger isn’t exactly easy, either, but I would prefer that even over leaving a voicemail.

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        1 year ago

        I wonder if it’s just because it feels less natural, and therefore forced, as if you’re having to perform.

        When I was young, I had a lot of anxiety over calling things like businesses, doctors offices, places where people had an official role. It felt intimidating. What eventually got me past that was remembering that though these people are in an official capacity, they’re also people who can joke and make mistakes and ramble and get confused, just like me. Once I stopped seeing them as their capacity, that feeling kinda went away.