I was spanken on butt by a girl today, immediately I returned the spank to her butt as an instinct, and she says “no you can’t.” What does that mean?

  • Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    She sexually assaulted you. Spanking back probably wasn’t the right response, but reporting her and calling her out for it would be.

    • Big P
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      1 year ago

      I think you’re assuming a scenario here that is very likely not to be the case

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        1 year ago

        He literally said he was spanked on the butt without his consent. No assumptions were made here period.

        This is the reason why male sexual assault isn’t taken seriously, and why male victims have even less recourse then female victims. Anytime a man is assaulted, it’s always brushed off as ‘it’s not a big deal’ or ‘it doesn’t count cause she’s a girl’ or ‘man up and just take it’, often by other men. It’s as if consent stops mattering if you have a penis or are male identifying.

        Imagine if the genders were reversed and how outraged you would be. As a woman who has had this exact thing done to me before, I know. It’s not a matter of how much it hurts to be spanked, it’s a matter of losing your agency over your own body and feeling like a piece of meat.

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          Additionally, if it wasn’t on his ass it’d still be battery. Sexual assault is pretty clearly defined to include slapping someone’s ass and, just generally, don’t touch other people.

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          1 year ago

          They didn’t even say that they are a man.They didn’t say how hard, didn’t say if they knows her or what the context was. Didn’t say where this happened or why she did it. This could’ve been a playful/flirtatious thing. It could’ve been two people who have been friends for years. It could’ve been a random stranger in the street. It could’ve been a brand new work colleague. I understand where you’re coming from, but I think that this particular one is too ambiguous to call