I’ve been hooking up with a girl i knew from my high school years for the past month now. She has no job and she lives at home with her parents. She hasn’t had a job since she got fired from her last job at a clothing store (about 8 months ago). I can’t say I’m in love although we do say i love you to each other. She kind of brought up the idea yesterday after we had sex. Not going to lie I’m a little scared. What should i do? Do i break up with her? Should i make an ultimatum that if she wants to move in with me she needs to get a job first? Edit: she wants to move into my apartment
Wild situation, my man, because of the fact that if she moves in and does not get a job, it could make a breakup very difficult.
You have also made an interesting and chivalrous choice to say I love you when not meaning it to a girl… This is not obligated normally, and you can hold out on that, but once you have had intimate relations where you put yourself in someone, you are obligated to say I love you back on some instinctual level…
My general advice to people is that they tend to not take relationships seriously enough and that they are too quick to shy away from commitment.
I would say this…
If yuo are saying right now “Oh shit, bro, I am not into that…”
Then it’s likely a bad idea for her to move in… Because if you treat her as a woman you are not super serious about that you just bang every night after work and keep in your house like a toy… That’s also not good karma for you and it will make her feel like she has been used even though arguably she could be said to be using you to move out of her home.
You know, it’s a VERY complicated situation and I feel like even if I got a few thousand words of text frm you it would be hard to give perfect advice…
Just shooting from the hip here, broseph.