YES… the way people talk to each other on Reddit is disheartening. I found that if I didn’t phrase things EXACTLY in the same tone/manner that was the general “reddit tone/manner” it was an argument and downvotes. If I had any opinion that was ever so slightly different from the popular opinion it wasn an argument and downvotes. It became impossible to have authentic conversations in many of the subs
I do the notes thing and when I’m done talking to them I refer to my notes and think of their face, that solidifies it for me pretty good.