PhobosAnomaly

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  • PhobosAnomalytomemes@lemmy.worldDecisions
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    21 hours ago

    Yeah, it works both ways at the end of the day.

    I know fine well when I need to take some holiday days - I work with a team of fantastic guys and girls in a very bureaucratic environment, so any deviation from the norm in certain projects come with a raft of paperwork (an unnecessary volume in some cases), before the issue can really be put to bed.

    Everyone makes fuckups. I’ve made fuckups and caused by line manager paperwork when I was at the coalface, and I’ll continue to make fuckups and learn from them in the future. I know my spuds will drop a bollock every now and then, and that’s cool.

    There are times when someone has made a royal arse of something and it’s stacked another load of paperwork on top of me, and I get a bit angry about it. It’s not rational, it’s not fair to rag on the poor dude or dudette or dudethey who made an error, and I’ll let my partner know that I’m not after solutions - I’m just needing a bit of extra time to calm down and refocus. Solutions to those problems mean overhauling a heavy and entrenched system of work, and it’s not something that can be done at home - I could have married Kofi Annan, but unless he’s familiar with the system of work, there’s fuck all he could actually do.

    At that point, it’s time to book a week or two off, and think about anything - everything - but work.

    e: clarity


  • I would take that awesome advice…

    …if I was on a compressed hours working pattern, and I would absolutely be turning the lights on and locking the doors in the first half of the week, and fucking off early on Thursday. No dramas whatsoever. My 37 and a half hours will boxed off as early as sensibly possible.

    Pulling a sixty hour week and getting paid for 37/40/42 though? Yeah nah fuck that.


  • Tough one.

    You’re absolutely correct in as much that most European terrorist attacks start with a blunt force mass-casualty attack, and move on to a low-sophistication phase such as knives or swords, with some sort of improvised explosive endgame.

    In North America though, it’s not really an attack pattern that is commonplace - likely due to the high availability of conventional firearms making it easier to start and continue a mass casualty attack.

    I suppose the line is drawn wherever it would become reasonable to assume that the driver was going to present a lethal threat to others in the vicinity after leaving the vehicle. I’m not familiar with this case in particular, but it’s going to be a tough one to justify if there’s no ongoing threat to the people in the area being presented.

    e: wrote a word twice


  • Man I’d be interested to see the info gathered from this, particular the radiation and EM data.

    Worries about earth’s apocalypse are here, there, and everywhere - and I guess I just get desensitised to most of the threats of mutual nuclear destruction or unmitigated superbacterial infections - but something like a Carrington Event really spooks me out. Like being collectively blinded, with no real human causal factor in it all.

    Off topic: I misinterpreted that thumbnail and thought it was an enemy from a Descent game



  • PhobosAnomalytomemes@lemmy.worldDecisions
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    It works spectacularly well with people you’re close to or on very good terms with.

    If my other half is kicking off about something, a quick “hey listen, are you wanting help to fix this or are you wanting to vent like fuck to feel a bit better?”

    It’s rarely the former, though I’d be more than happy to help if it was. At least then I can let her rage out and decompress without throwing in unwanted suggestions.

    Probably comes across as a bit blunt to people you don’t know well though.


  • Every person’s view is different, and there’s no sure-fire way to make a friendship happen. Anyone who tells you there is, is either lying or has a lot of power or money that attracts “yes men”. Other genders are available.

    So, as with anyone else’s experience, my advice is purely anecdotal - and it’s basically “don’t be a dick”.

    That’s an incredibly reductive soundbite, but in short, I try and be decent to other people and encourage people to be cool with me. No ego, no perceived power dynamic, just chill - for the duration of whatever we’re doing. It could be playing online, a videoconference for work, an academic meeting, and project team - whatever. As another poster said, the vast majority of time I don’t go into interactions looking to come out with a new best friend or a new romantic partner - partly because the former makes you come across as insincere, and mainly because my partner would have something to say about the latter.

    Of a hundred interactions or meetings or encounters maybe one will start firing on all cylinders from the get-go, and you’ll find that you share loads in common, they’ve got a similar sense of humour, or even you may be mutually attracted to them from their video feeds - whatever. For the most part, I’m sad to see people I’ve met leave at the end of a project, an academic grouping, or a game sesh - but I didn’t click with them enough to actively want to see them again.

    That one-in-a-hundred may develop into a “hey, I play this other game/with another group” or “man you know your shit, we should stay in touch” or “jeez I could learn a lot from you, fancy swapping details?” - and it may well be that you’ve read it all wrong and they think you’re a bellend. It is what it is, it’s their call and it takes two to tango.

    If the planets align though, you’ll get a good friend, a romantic partner, a decent teammate or a brilliant colleague that lasts for years.

    In short, if you’re pretty sound and go in with the best of intentions, giving everyone* the time of day, then you’ll at the very least make the best of whatever situation you’re thrown in (voluntary or otherwise), and at best you’ll find someone equally awesome and it’ll run from there.

    Either way, good luck. I hope you find someone to play with/enjoy their company/chat shit to soon.

    *does not include obvious cockwombles of course. The definition of which is left as an exercise for the reader.





  • I suppose a group chat by it’s very definition is a clique, else it would be a public chat.

    The key - as in face to face interactions - is to only bother yourself with groups you have a personal interest in, or a professional benefit from being in.

    It’s a fine balance. Too many groups and it comes across as insincere, too few and you end up out of the loop on a lot of friendly news or professional opportunities.


  • I think this - and the dozens of other reasons - is it.

    I’m in a handful of reasonably active group chats, and if one of my absolute banger messages doesn’t get a response, welll… maybe it just wasn’t that good. Not awful in as much that people leave the group en maase, but just not nearly as funny or interesting to other folk as it was to me.

    It may be that it was the group chat equivalent of clicking a Lemmy post, thinking “huh, cool”, and moving on.

    It may be that the post was so balanced and well presented from most angles, that there isn’t really anything to add.

    It could be that my post went against the grain of the flow of conversation or the tastes of the majority of the group, and people chose to ignore it rather than tell me to fuck off.

    It could be that people’s lives have run away with them, nobody gave any serious mind to the post when they read it, and it would just be a bit weird replying twelve or 24 hours after the post.

    Any which way - if the group is still active, and you’ve not been called out publically or privately, then people likely don’t give a toss and have moved on - no harm no foul.