I went to what I thought was an Easter event on Sunday at a local sports club, just me and the little one (7mo). I didn’t expect to do any Easter egg hunting, just thought he might like to look around and such.

I stood in a queue for 15 minutes that I thought was to enter the place. Turns out it was for face painting which we weren’t going to do. Had a nice chat with a family which was good though, they didn’t know the queue was for face painting either.

Went to the bar in the end and got a pint of lemonade, looked around and realized all the tables were booked for a private event and practically no one was there for the advertised event. I stood around for 10 minutes looking like a complete mug holding a baby.

Found out someone dressed as a rabbit was coming so thought ok I’ll wait for that as it was happening at 3pm. Waited another 2 minutes which felt like about a billion years, checked my watch and thought f*** it, it’s not worth the wait. Put baby back in the pushchair and high tailed it out.

He was absolutely great, just happy to look around and smiling at anyone who looked at him. He napped like a king when we got home so it was good for that, but it just seemed to lack some sign posting and organization… next year he’ll be older and we might actually do some egg hunting.

Right now he wouldn’t understand the concept of a white rabbit laying chocolate eggs for Jesus, but next year I’m confident he’ll know what a rabbit is so we’ll be one step closer

Thanks! Doing what I can.

We’re doing the shared parental leave thing starting in April which is just going to be so cool to be there up until his 1st birthday and see him develop without the stresses of work.

Being at work at the moment means I tend to miss him at his smileyest and he’s a little more subdued when I get in - and my SO is tired out from the day. It’ll be good to have the mornings with him. Not entirely sure if I’ll be welcome at mother and baby groups, but I’ll see what’s around. If all else fails I suppose there’s always the pub? They’ve got a playground…

That’s really sweet! What a great interest to have!

I’m a new father and my son is only 5 months old.

I know its not a competition and children especially this young aren’t on a strict timeline, but I’m proud of his milestones that he’s hitting and also proud of ourselves as parents for doing what we are with him. I feel like he’s getting a good foundation (though, honestly, I am feeling a lack of motivation and a tad down at the moment for mental reasons and am trying my best to make sure that doesn’t impact him).

So far he’s pretty much hit milestones to the day. He’s started rolling over, smiling, laughing, staying sat up (with a little help) and he’s fast approaching solid foods and rather enjoys eyeing up whatever we’re having. He likes baths and showers, he’s quite happy playing on his own and will smile at anyone.

I have heard from my SO that other parents that she’s met haven’t put as much time into tummy time and so they aren’t quite as able (of course no bad reflection on the parents - we all have busy and tiring lives).

On the other hand, he’s started screeching like a pterodactyl which is only doing my head in a little bit. I have been trying my best to encourage blowing raspberries which are wholly easier to manage albeit with a significant increase in dribble quantity. He’s also been battling bad reflux which has been a bit stressful so it’s not all smiles and screeches, but largely its going well.

It’s so annoying. They’ve stopped even putting the “You can’t sort rubbish right” signs on the bins. Not that our neighbors would give a flying bacon packet.

I did speak to one guy who said something like “Oh, yeah, we should do something about that like hire a skip or something… Some of it is ours though” Yeah, it’s got your name and address on it. It would be awfully terrible if someone were to be fined for fly tipping now wouldn’t it.

I have 2 bins, but only because the council took away the wrong one and have taken nearly 2 months to do anything nothing about it

We are supposed to have a black for general, a blue for plastic/packaging recycling, a black box for card and paper and a teenie baby brown bin for food waste. Our neighbors were fly tipping outside our property and their bins were full to the brim with incorrect waste so we reported it. They said they would remove the offending bins and we should leave ours apart from theres so there is “no confusion”.

There was confusion. I have called them what feels like a billion times.

And now my shed is full of almost 6 weeks of recycling as I can’t get to the tip as my wife gave birth and now I’m back at work.

edit: I’m still pissed off so added more info to vent

I once bent down to pick up a huge pile of laundry and fell asleep on top of it. Woke up a couple of hours later and got into bed for the night.

I stayed at a premier inn during lockdown and boiled my eggs in the kettle cause the kitchen wasn’t open. I made a whole meal actually. Only disappointment was there was no trouser press to make a toasted sandwich

https://aadduk.org/help-support/support-groups/ Is a list of support groups. Some are online, others in person. My wife has OCD and I’ve used some of the OCD partner groups. They’ve been really helpful. You’re not alone

I’ve engaged here more than I ever did on Reddit

I’ve got a bunch of waste wooden d6 that can be roughed up a bit. I’ve sent you a private message.

https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy is the ansible docker deploy. Absolutely bloody amazing. They have a chat-GPT bot available for install now as well, though you’ll need a premium API key to use it.

Searx NG worked well for me. I currently have Matrix running on another, set up with the ansible docker repo. Actually trying to set lemmy up on another.

I converted to pay as you go so they would open up the smtp ports so I could use postmoogle with Matrix but i still only use the always free shapes and still havent incurred a charge in roughly 6 months

*46 :P

I did see that cloudflare tends to have a similar first and subsequent year price which is much more straight forward. I do actually have a domain with them. I was looking for another cheap domain to tinker with so I went for an 8 figure .xyz but from namecheap rather than porkbun as it was 85c for the year instead of $1.66 . Renewal price says it will be the same as the first year.

That is nuts! Nice tip!

You can get a couple of free VPSs with Oracle no credit card required as well. I’ve heard some people say theirs were shut down and I read somewhere that they may do if usage falls below a certain amount - I guess cause they’re considered dormant. I’ve never had a problem.

For all my self hosted stuff I use nginx proxy manager behind a cloudflare tunnel. The tunnel connects to a container on the machine which sends everything to the reverse proxy. no need for vpn or port forwarding

I’ve been using the nextcloud RSS reader for a while now. Not the most feature rich, but it does the job for me.

I think it’s great resource for deepening your home made campaigns, but cheapens publish material. I’d use it in my campaigns but if I ever wanted to throw it on Kickstarter I wouldn’t feel comfortable without original work by Organic Intelligence.

certbot certonly --manual is what I need though I think cloudflare or something else is making it only resolve to https. I’m going to shelf this for now and come back to it later. Thanks for your help