It seems like the person not online as much sort of simulates a lot of unwritten social rules that only people who are able to learn those rules are able to see.
Can someone please tell me they know what I mean by this
u gotta move on to another girl :( if she wanted to respond to your messages, she would (this is also me lecturing myself, I’ve been where I think u are buddy)
Yeah probably but I’m just confused why she’s ignoring my messages but following me on TikTok? Is that not strange? I don’t even post shit there anymore
when did she start following u? When u guys started going on dates, or after she stopped responding to messages?
Just tonight lol we stopped going on dates more than a year ago. Idk man, probably just a long way to say I wish people used their words. Maybe no neurotype is exempt
I respect the hell out of ppl who don’t ghost me but just tell me straight up. I try to give the same respect to the ppl I go on dates w that I’m not into.
Like, right now, I am almost certain an extremely unonline person is playing games with me on TikTok and liking a select few of my videos from the past while ignoring me over text at the same time
What else could that be
If she’s ignoring your messages and ghosted you before, there’s no hidden message or games here. She is not interested in you.
People who are interested in you respond to your messages, or even message you first.
I’ve seen things like this manifest into weird obsessions, full on mental breaks, and even stalking, liking posts and following and stuff on social media is not some kind of cryptic message.
I’m not saying that this will happen to you, just saying this framing and way of thinking is not the kind of mental rabbithole you want to go down, so best to just ignore it completely unless she reaches out to you first, with words that is.
Still doesn’t answer the question why she followed me on TikTok as someone who doesn’t use TikTok other than to scroll
And I originally matched with her on hinge, she ignored me for 3 months until she gave me her number then we met up in person and she ghosted. And now she’s fucking following me on TikTok and ignoring my messages? What is the other reading comrades I’m hanging onto the social order by a thread and looking into a void in the pit below
Based on this limited information, some possible explanations:
- Your content is good and relevant to her, but she doesn’t actually like you
- She doesn’t know it’s you
- She is neurodivergent
- She is socially anxious or inexperienced
- She likes you but thinks you don’t like her
🤷
Do you have any mutuals you could ask?
Or maybe she wants to be a friend, but from more of a distance?
IDK, I feel like people forget there’s humans behind these accounts online and we collectively lost our ability to communicate how we feel. Ghosting sucks and IMO comes off as immature.
i get what you mean, and unfortunately can relate
