• edric@lemm.eeEnglish
    105·
    21 days ago
    • Work from home.
    • Can wear whatever I want.
    • Lots of food and can cook whatever I want.
    • A/C temp the way I want it.
    • Comfort of my own bathroom and toilet.
    • Lots of entertainment options (streaming/TV, laptop/PC, games).
    • My hobby is indoors (music).
    • Don’t have to spend money just to hang around.
    • Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works
      50·
      21 days ago

      Don’t have to spend money just to hang around.

      Not to mention there are no more third spaces. When we leave our home, besides going to a park or something, you’re expected to pay at almost all establishments you go to. As in, you have to pay rent to use infrastructure you don’t own, so why not just stay at home since you’ve already paid for using that.

      • Madison420@lemmy.world
        12·
        20 days ago

        You pay for parks too and in fact have partial ownership over most publicly funded parks though since everyone has property interest is still held as the property of another for trespassing after hours and such.

        Ed: why downvote? It’s a verifiable fact and implied by the phrase “public park”. It’s not free you’ve just already paid it via taxation.

  • Mandy@sh.itjust.works
    923·
    21 days ago

    Having seen how so called extroverts where seemingly going insane 4 years ago, I at this point assume they don’t like their own home for some reason

    • Asafum@feddit.nl
      38·
      21 days ago

      I think it’s an issue with entertaining themselves. Extroverts seek entertainment through social interaction while introverts tend to be able to entertain themselves just fine.

    • Signtist@lemm.eeEnglish
      291·
      21 days ago

      Even my introverted friends were getting stir crazy in 2020. By the end of that year I was the only one I knew who was still perfectly content to be snuggled under a blanket putzing around online all day… I mean working from home.

    • Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works
      201·
      21 days ago

      It was really weird to me too. Like, if you don’t like your home and being by yourself, maybe you’re not a good influence on others.

    • AquaTofana@lemmy.world
      9·
      21 days ago

      I was one of those extroverted people going absolutely nuts, and I never stopped working. However, my leadership had split us into 2 separate shifts, and so I was seeing the same 5 people every day versus a normally bustling workcenter. I joked to one of my Airmen that I wasnt sure if she was real or a figment of my imagination to keep me company.

      I was literally constantly exhausted even though I wasnt allowed to do anything aside from work/home.

      It did give me new insight to one of my best friends though, who is an extreme introvert. She lived with me for a brief while in our 20s, and I would get so frustrated when she would come home and immediately disappear into her room, and then Id have to fight her tooth and nail to get her to come hang on the weekends. I really was like “Why tf do you live with me if you obviously dont like me?” I always thought her “Nah Im tired” was just an excuse, and it made me feel really bad about myself.

      Now? I definitely understand the difference better, and Im a lot more patient.

  • Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee
    412·
    21 days ago

    It really took me the longest time to realise that a huge percentage of people that need to go outside as much as possible do so because they feel unhappy at home (‘home’ as literal dwelling I mean, they don’t know what to do there, aren’t happy with or can’t be by themselves, don’t enjoy their immediate home environment & stuff they have in it, etc).

    • Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world
      13·
      21 days ago

      I enjoy my house, and my things, and use them often. I enjoy my home life. I still feel the need to go out and experience the world beyond my tiny bubble. I get great joy simply out of breaking up my routine, meeting new people, seeing new places, going to local gathering spots. When I am done with all that I also have the benefit of socializing without having a pile of dishes to do either.

      Your assessment is right for some people, and you probably have contact with a group that leads to a bias in believing this is what people, generally, who need to do things beyond their house, are like. It is not true for most though. Most people like their homes, and home lives, a lot. They also feel the need to go out and do something other than home life, regularly, in order to be happy, in the long term. Doesn’t matter how awesome my house is, doesn’t matter how many skills I am working on, or how many hobbies I have, if I don’t do something out of the ordinary, on a fairly regular basis, life begins to feel dull, and no amount of improving my home will alleviate that.

      • Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee
        1·
        20 days ago

        Yes, “you people” were my default assumption.

        What I said was that only later I found out (well, more like “realised”) that there are also a bunch of folk that are miserable in their home environment (like living in a shoebox apartment or a house they just mentally arent able to customise it to their preference).

        • Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world
          1·
          20 days ago

          Yes, there are a lot of people like that. They have psychiatric issues, usually depression. They could just be poor, and don’t have the means to make their house, their home, yet. They might be in the stages before drinking themselves to sleep, every night, alone, at home. Most people are not like that though. Novelty is a key element to stimulation, most people need it, this is why they go out, meet new people, go new places, etc., routines are nice until that element is no longer being fulfilled. Then it just becomes a rut.

    • _____@lemm.eeEnglish
      5·
      21 days ago

      I play music, games, code , read. Just with music alone I’m already home stuck because of my work schedule. Seriously there is so much in piano technique that with a full time job ur pretty much going straight home and practicing.

      Given you care about your hobbies.

    • ikka@lemmy.sdf.org
      2·
      7 days ago

      Humans are social creatures. Many animals get depressed too when they don’t have another of its kind to live around.

  • Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works
    371·
    21 days ago

    Cause when you stay at home, you become comfortable with it and also keep making things better and better. You have full control over your experience so you end up optimizing it.

    When you go out to say a coffee shop, that’s optimized for the owner to make the most money.

  • Chef_Boyardee@lemm.ee
    7·
    21 days ago

    Got no choice. My dad has developed dementia, and I refuse to put him in a home until he is completely mindless.

    I’m scared only because my health benefits ran out two months ago. But don’t worry pops, I got you.

  • morphballganon@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    6·
    20 days ago

    Well, you see, I fill my house with things I like, and people I love, so being there is enjoyable.

    I suppose if your house is full of things you hate and people you dislike, then you would want to leave.