Hi comrades, want to give you all an informal update on the discussions around the site’s misogyny problems that’ve been happening over the last several days. I wanna make sure you know that the admin/mod team has seen all of that discourse and we’ve been actively discussing solutions in the matrix mod chat. We’re taking this shit very seriously and acknowledge that we haven’t used a heavy enough hand on misogynistic rhetoric. As some of you saw we nuked that cheating thread from a couple weeks ago and handed out temp bans to the most egregious offenders. Idk how that was allowed to run it’s course but we apologize for that oversight. We’re going to do better.
We’ve come up with some ideas for how to improve this part of the site culture and we want to get suggestions from y’all as well, since the alarm was sounded on this by our beautiful c/traa posters to begin with. Our ideas so far include:
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A zero-tolerance policy towards any even remotely misogynistic/patriarchal posts or comments, as too much has slipped through the cracks on that, establishing a clear protocol for bans for violating rules against misogyny, and ideally tracking repeat offenders in a way that makes deciding a course of action easy when they reoffend.
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Uphold TC69 thought by starting up a book club (and hopefully more to follow) on feminist theory and encouraging mass participation, particularly from the he/him’s on the site. “The Will to Change” by bell hooks has been suggested by multiple people as a great starting point but please feel free to suggest any other works.
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Relaunching /c/menby with a trusted educated mod team and a specific focus on countering mainstream narratives about masculinity, relationships and sex that breed reactionary, patriarchal attitudes
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Encouraging [namely femme] participation in /c/womenby and taking steps to revitalize that sub as an excellent source of discussion on feminism and intersectionality
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Holding another mod drive to get more folks into mod positions in our communities who can help weed out reactionary attitudes
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Encouraging users to use the report button often on any post that seems even remotely sus, with the promise that no one’s going to be punished for “report abuse” for reporting posts in obvious good faith
Please let me know your thoughts on the above or any other ideas you have for making the site better, safer and more inclusive for our femme comrades. Once we’ve fully hammered out plans and updated policy we plan to make an announcement post highlighting these changes for the whole userbase. Thank you all for being here and being who you are 
I’m ultimately down with whatever everyone wants to do I’m mostly just voicing my unease/trauma about splitting groups and lines of communication. If we keep it all still together some way rather than splitting threads or something that would be best.
I honestly kinda even hate the Fediverse because of its tendency to split queer groups, but recognize its probably the least shit noncorporate way to run things for queers. I also am kinda sad that people want to even make a separate spot, I feel like I’ve put in a lot of effort to make sure enbies felt welcome here, I really wanted to make a place that avoided the typical splitting.
i don’t feel unwelcome. and it’s not a here thing either. it’s a consistent problem i’ve had with trans communities for the past 15 years. and in many cases it’s been downright harmful and segregated and thats not what its like here. but that doesn’t mean that i don’t feel like, incredibly different to the vast majority of trans people. and it can be harder to find ur voice in a community when u feel that way. and i had no idea that there were at least several other people here who feel the same, which is kinda the whole reason i would love an enby community. you’re not doing anything wrong and i’m sorry i made u feel that way.
transfem content is so prolific it can squeeze some of the rest of us out sometimes that don’t share those issues or experiences, so a separate subforum seems warranted… if people are gonna use it. i don’t have a better idea bit i don’t have pressing agender issues i’m dying to talk about, maybe the gender having enbys do