don’t fucking lecture me by saying that i “don’t need others to validate me since i’m already a woman” or that “i don’t ACTUALLY need others to validate/affirm me, i can do it myself”.
like yes i can do that but it fucking hits different when someone else says that. especially if it’s someone close to you.
but apparently it’s too hard for some people to tell a trans woman in need that they’ll “always be a woman”. even if you explicitly fucking request that. even if that someone is your partner who also happens to be a trans woman.
apparently according to her i don’t need anyone else “to tell me that” because “i’m already a woman”
i hate this constant dismissal of what i need. just tell me what i want and i’ll get out of your fucking way.
makes me wonder what’s the point of having friends/partners even is when you can’t even depend on rely on others and ALWAYS GOTTA FUCKING DO EVERYTHING YOURSELF to get what you want
for context i experienced transphobia in an online space somewhere and it really would’ve helped.
sorry for being a fucking attention seeker.
Our shameful attention seeking
Their valid trauma posting
You’re valid, ma’am. Humans have psychological needs and people act like it doesn’t matter when they have never been wanting of their own needs.
yeah… consequences of frequently being called an “attention seeker” back when i was a minor for the crimes of opening up to others. as a result now i live with worrying if i’m bothering others by opening up or expressing my psychological needs.
wish others understood it like you do because come on, we’re not fucking robotic tin cans. we’re people with emotions. fuck this toxic individualistic nonsense where you get told that “It’s nOT otHEr PeOPleS’ job” to validate or comfort you 😒
Peak liberalism, swallowing my head