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  • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    6·
    2 months ago

    that’s pretty cool, i haven’t done rss feeds in years, is invidious still usable with youtube trying to ban instances or are you running your own? I’m still a FreeTube pleb but i would love to get back to rss readers (it’d be easier to sort things, go back through them, and a list format may be nice for scanning quickly… hmmmm)

    edit: wait, surely lemmy (ie. bear site) has rss support as well, right?

    • magi [null/void]@hexbear.netMEnglish
      5·
      2 months ago

      hexbear has rss yes ^^ I just find rss far easier and more relaxing to poke through, can even get the video descriptions so you have all the info.

      Some invidious instances still work. can see herewhich. I go between instances on invidious and piped deoending on uptime.

      • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        3·
        2 months ago

        yeah, i get lost in all the deep nested threads here, would rss help with that? and i joined the matrix room but i’m too scared to talk to anyone because i don’t know how to chatroom and also none of the images load for some reason?

        • magi [null/void]@hexbear.netMEnglish
          5·
          2 months ago

          Rss may help makima-think at least keep you up to date on whatever threads you add to it. I find matrix hard to chat in as it’s easy for people to get pushed out of the conversations and I don’t like talking over other people either. I find one room kind of too limiting and it also kills conversation in that format, at least in my experience. I prefer rooms to chat in away from general chat where the loudest or more vocal will squeeze everyone else out, just by nature of the one room format. I also only have it on the phone which I tend to forget I have one at times… so I miss messages while at my desk. The matrix server had some issue that stopped images loading in other clients unless updated so that’s probably the issue, I find matrix quite disappointing and I still use discord though barely as I don’t really talk to many people.

          • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
            4·
            2 months ago

            what are you using for an RSS client these days? any suggestions?

            I find matrix hard to chat in as it’s easy for people to get pushed out of the conversations and I don’t like talking over other people either.

            you know, now that you mention it …i think this might be the reason i don’t talk in places that have too many people in them. being this active on a forum is very abnormal for me, i’m not sure why it’s ok for me here, maybe its all the encouragement. i’m sure i would have realized this pretty quick, you probably just saved me a little frustration. i think if people were to ask me things directly i’d be talkative, but i would have difficulty contributing in a general sense.

            at least here i can hide all my posts in a spoiler tag so people that think i’m annoying don’t get too annoyed by how long they are lol

            I prefer rooms to chat in away from general chat where the loudest or more vocal will squeeze everyone else out, just by nature of the one room format.

            agree, i tend to prefer smaller alike groups in general - imo the ideal group of very active chatters is below 10 (but the thought of 113 people reading my posts is … yikes, that’s a lot of pressure). irl it’s 4 or 5 max for me, i had a 6 person board game thing the other week and by the end i was very overwhelmed by trying to keep up with multiple conversations, even all about the game, and like 2 or 3 of the people are pretty quiet people generally as well

            The matrix server had some issue that stopped images loading in other clients unless updated so that’s probably the issue, I find matrix quite disappointing and I still use discord though barely as I don’t really talk to many people.

            i have a discord server which is the only way to talk to some of my rl friends lol, but i never log in, since i bridged it to a self-hosted matrix instance. not a single one of them wants to join through matrix and my only irl communist friend is so treatbrained she calls me paranoid for using open-source software :/ … sorry i’m probably not being very kind here, i was pretty hurt by that comment

            • magi [null/void]@hexbear.netMEnglish
              5·
              2 months ago

              I use rss guard as I xan get it to pull the thumbnails down and their rss discovery is really good. lots of features too.

              I don’t talk to many people, I just keep servers for mods on discords but don’t really talk anywhere but here.

              I only really spoiler more sensitive stuff, I don’t really care if people read my stuff lol but you have my sympathy.

              I don’t have any irl friends bar my wife. lol I barely use anything non open source lol

              • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                3·
                2 months ago

                I use rss guard as I xan get it to pull the thumbnails down and their rss discovery is really good. lots of features too.

                thanks!!! trying it (update: got it from flathub, what’s your bear site setup like? do you add individual threads, or just your inbox?) edit: actually i found the comment view, nice!

                I don’t talk to many people, I just keep servers for mods on discords but don’t really talk anywhere but here.

                i feel very special to have so much of your time and energy then, thank you for talking with me :)

                I don’t have any irl friends bar my wife. lol I barely use anything non open source lol

                i am working on figuring out what i want from non-romantic relationships in general, i see my irl friends once every couple of months lol

                • magi [null/void]@hexbear.netMEnglish
                  5·
                  2 months ago

                  I don’t actually have rss from hexbear going through it atm, I generally just check hexbear on auto refresh lol

                  thank you for talking with me :)

                  You’re welcome ^^

                  i am working on figuring out what i want from non-romantic relationships in general

                  Yeah it’s hard to meet new people, and doubly hard when I don’t really need people to validate my existence, I don’t want to deal with libs either at this stage, I have had my fill of trying to mingle with them. There’s no real motivation other than it would be maybe nice to know other people but then I don’t really want to go some places where there’s no masking and such with people. I’ve spent more of my life with nobody too than with anyone to hang out with.

                  • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                    3·
                    2 months ago

                    Yeah it’s hard to meet new people

                    yeah, i mostly have made friends at work since i moved away from Big City but that’s really not great, most of the people I work with are libs and we’re more isolated than ever since everyone basically works from home now (which tbh is really good for me)

                    I don’t want to deal with libs either at this stage, I have had my fill of trying to mingle with them

                    I can understand that completely. I still have to deal with them for work unfortunately.

                    There’s no real motivation other than it would be maybe nice to know other people but then I don’t really want to go some places where there’s no masking and such with people.

                    I feel that way too. I don’t really like going “out,” especially not since the “end” of the pandemic… a lot of stuff even some of my friends are into is not something i want? TTRPGs not really for me, or playing most online games, I can play board games once a month but the math (and other things) is exhausting, and I feel pressured to people-please so hard (I guess this feeling is the opposite of yours) that I can quickly get burnt out when people want to do things or when one of my friends wants to do a 1am board game, I’m terrible at setting boundaries and being assertive with people that I’m close to (except my partner, of course, he’s great).

                    I want so bad to get to a place where the people around me actually understand my needs and I can interact with them without feeling the need to mask, even if that means different friends. I want to be able to disagree with people when I, well, disagree with them, instead of bending myself to fit the mould of the people around me and avoiding any conflict, and I want friends that can tolerate that, who I can truly Combat Liberalism with, you know? When someone says something that sucks, I want to be able to tell them that it sucked, instead of stewing on it for days until I forget about it.

                    When I was young, most of my friends were online. I got into coding from an online friend, and immediately took to it. I probably would not be alive today, and I definitely wouldn’t be able to have a job, if it weren’t for that friend. I only learned what atheism was from the Internet, and what being trans was. I only internalized the “online friends aren’t real friends” crap years later and I still struggle with it.

                    It’s so hard to separate myself from the mask. I wonder who I am underneath. Thanks again for listening to me ramble. I think our conversations have helped a lot, I’ve really enjoyed hearing your perspectives, you are so cool to me.