Hello everyone! Hestia here with a new Megathread! Years ago, before I transitioned and when I was still in college I took an anthropology class. My favorite part of the class was when we were covering different gender customs across the globe and got to make a report on one of them. I can’t remember exactly which one I chose for that project, but what I do remember is a map with different pins scattered on it with various forms of gender-queerness. I decided to track it down and share it with you folks!

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?ll=8.016975588774075%2C64.4248907814756&z=2&mid=1zDWxhBN5aOofwpE-FkZWQsiFDlE

Edit: you have to open this in a browser, if you’re on a phone it will automatically try to open it in Google maps and won’t bring up the info.

This map provides a brief summary of these genders, but does not go in depth. If you find any you’re interested in, feel free to do some further research and share your findings here. I’ll pin a comment to this post you can attach them. I’m going to share a couple that I found interesting and decided to look further into myself, both of them are non-binary and native american in origin.

The first one I want to talk about is the Winkte, which is a third gender role that was particulatly notable in the Lakota tribe The Winkte are seen as half-men, half-women, and considered sacred. They are typically AMAB and historically have served unique roles in matters of romance and matchmaking and often served as intermediaries for prospecting couples and their families. They also participated in war parties, functioning primarily as witnesses to battle and as doctors to care for the injured. They were also seen as seers, able to forsee paths to victory.

https://www.sdpb.org/blogs/arts-and-culture/the-winkte-and-the-hundred-in-hand/

This next one I’m going to talk about seems mostly local to the Zuni people called the “Lhamana” and I find the Zuni culture to be particularly fascinating, even just doing a cursory glance at it.

Gender roles were well defined in Zuni culture, but the Zuni also valued the concept of a “middle” as it represented stability. This originates from their creation myth, which I won’t go in detail here because I don’t feel qualified to summarize it, but it’s in the link down below.

The Zuni culture is pretty neat and they don’t refer to gender when talking about children. They believed that gender wasn’t an inborn trait but something you acquired as you approached puberty. I wish this was the western approach, but alas.

As children approach puberty they begin to differentiate through different hair styles or clothing choices. AFAB Lhamana would grind corn and make a bowl of stew when they get their first period. There’s probably some cultural significance to this, but I’m not going to do a deep dive on it right now. AMAB Lhamana would start to wear dresses once they hit puberty and start performing women’s work. Both AMAB and AFAB Lhamana were allowed to switch between male and female gender roles as they pleased.

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/The-Middle-Gender-in-Zuni-Religion

That’s all for now! To wrap thing up I would like to invite yall to our public matrix server! https://matrix.to/#/#tracha:chapo.chat

As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It’s for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.

Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.

  • EstraDoll [she/her]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    7
    ·
    2 hours ago

    today in adventures in being out at work

    guy comes up to me and while i’m pretty used to being called “sir” because of my barely trained voice, this guy called me “sir” before i fucking said a word to him agony-deep, so I just took a mental deep breath and responded to him in my best femme voice I could muster. I think I could feel that it was at least good enough to put him on his toes because the rest of the interaction was kind of awkward and he never called me a man after

  • lilypad [she/her, null/void]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    6
    ·
    3 hours ago
    life is weird

    Meds have been helping… But still have all the (lack of) executive capacity, and seriously feeling the avoidant side of myself, getting very anxious about bringing people further into my life. Ive been so social lately, i feel like i may be overdoing it, and im trying to deal with that without overcorrecting and cutting all my friends and new aquaintances out of my life for the next 3 months catgirl-flop

      • lilypad [she/her, null/void]@hexbear.net
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        6
        ·
        3 hours ago

        Thats the thing, i dont need to step back catgirl-disgust normally i just burn out and thats how i manage my social battery (great strat, i know catgirl-flop). Its more me getting in my head and panicking about myself than an actual need to step back, if that makes sense?

        • naom3 [she/her]@hexbear.net
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          4
          ·
          2 hours ago

          Yeah my social anxiety is still pretty bad but I’ve noticed that, around people I’m familiar and comfortable with, I don’t really get drained like that anymore. I actually like hanging out with people now which is weird because I haven’t felt like that since I was a kid

        • Hestia [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.netOPM
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          6
          ·
          edit-2
          3 hours ago

          That makes sense. I actually understand that on a spiritual level, I don’t really get exhausted socially anymore. I’m friendly, my default expression is a smile, and I actually engage in conversation with people.

  • SadArtemis [she/her]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    11
    ·
    6 hours ago

    I think we should make a tracha-lite (tracha but less chaotic/probably with a spray bottle to keep users like me contained). There’s been at least a few people (4~ come to mind) I’ve seen and talked to who said normal tracha can be overwhelming or intimidating.

    I know we talked about that a bit in the tracha mods chat, but figure that tossing the idea here would probably also help it not be drowned out by other chats (might make a post or idk later as well, idk)

  • AshenWolf [she/her, any]@hexbear.netM
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    12
    ·
    edit-2
    1 hour ago

    I actually have free time again, what a concept! So, I’ve returned to creating character portraits. I want to compare two I don’t believe I’ve shown on here. The first uses the older software, and the second one the newer software. The second one also meets the 16-color requirement, while the first does not. There’s also a pixel on each that needs fixing. Other than that, which one do you all think looks better?

    Also adding a bonus one, made with the newer software

    Bonus round 2: Luna “Castro” redone

    • AshenWolf [she/her, any]@hexbear.netM
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      1 hour ago

      The more I look at these portraits, the more I like the one in the middle the best. I really liked the other two, it’s why they didn’t get scrapped, but the one in the middle is almost completely new, and I think I did a pretty good job.

    • lilypad [she/her, null/void]@hexbear.net
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      edit-2
      2 hours ago

      I like the right one more, but i think it would look good with a more contrasty accent colour, perhaps a shade of blue or green? Maybe pastel-y since the colours are so strong in the portrait.

      • AshenWolf [she/her, any]@hexbear.netM
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        1 hour ago

        It would probably work nicely, but I would have to find a way to work it into the color limit. It’s going into a 16-bit game, so I can only have 16 colors. I might be able to get away with blending some shadows though, I’ll get back to you. Also going to try to make the contrast more uniform between portraits, I fixed the second one.

      • AshenWolf [she/her, any]@hexbear.netM
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        8
        ·
        5 hours ago

        I definitely like the one on the right better myself, it is my second take after all. Thanks for the good luck, I’m going to need it. I took one look at the game software, and it’s going to be a lot of work and learning new things.

  • Thallo [love/loves]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    12
    ·
    6 hours ago

    I spent years putting together my wardrobe. If I start hormones, are they still gonna fit??

    Oh shit, this is bad! Will my new fleshy bits be contained??

  • Ambii [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    15
    ·
    edit-2
    6 hours ago

    They weren’t lying, this progesterone really do be making me eepy.

    Also my hair is like, ridiculously soft suddenly. Like almost overnight, even my girlfriend noticed it. I’m definitely not imagining things and I haven’t changed anything in my hair care. Idk where this came from but I’m very happy about it.

  • Yor [she/her]@hexbear.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    16
    ·
    edit-2
    8 hours ago

    the surgeon I was going with backed out because he doesn’t feel confident enough for my specific case yet. he said he would try to research and contact me again in a few weeks to see if he found any leads for where I go

    cw: suicide, hopelessness, venting

    I really want to kill myself. the drive is so real. I tried to tell him I accept that there’s uncertainty on outcomes and complications and even having a phallus alone would help me so much, but that wasn’t enough.

    exhausting every way you can think of trying to convince someone to take a chance and pull you from the misery only for him to kindly and firmly refute each is difficult. feeling completely backed into a corner with nothing but acceptance that this grim era will continue without the hope I was holding onto, it really is difficult

    I just want someone to help me

  • SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her]@hexbear.netM
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    13
    ·
    7 hours ago

    My doctor: get your cholesterol under control and then we can raise your dose

    Okay but I’m too depressed to have be able to stick with a diet can we just try increasing the estrogen and manage everything from there?

    I unilaterally decided to up my dose my just taking more. Only up to the minimum recommended dose for two weeks now I think. I haven’t felt better in ages and finding the motivation to eat healthy, get exercise, and socialize, has never been greater. We really need to drill into the medical community how important HRT is and to get up to an effective dose asap. Maybe it’s a placebo but it feels real and the effects are real so w/e.